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Open Question: Why is my family being lied upon?

My uncle's family is here in town and we have seen only him. When our uncle would visit, our auntie and cousin were not present. What makes matters worse is that, when we would speak about them, our uncle would say that they were doing alright. To pacify things throughout the years, our uncle would send gifts and that would be nice. Now because of all the years that have passed by, the only reason why he was keeping in touch was because our uncle assumed that we had money. There was this rumor that spread throughout the family that we had a grandiose amount of money. That all this time our uncle feels that he is entitled to something that we don't have. This was his agenda the whole time. Time has evolved and we all are grown now and we never knew our cousin whatsoever. My sister and brother were children when she was walking the Earth. Recently, the family found out that this grown woman, which is our cousin, is getting married and we're going to this pre-wedding dinner, but we're not being invited to the actual wedding. Their reason for coming to visit us, is because they still believe in that same old rumor that we have money. They have lied about our family and us individually. It was intentionally done on purpose and they simply do not give a damn. My uncle has blamed my mother for things that are not true. When they were children, they both were adopted into the family. Meaning, my mother and her brother were adopted and given to my grandaunt to raise. My mother's father, which is my grandfather, took it upon itself to just raise the brother and separately broke them up on purpose. So, I don't know why he wants to place fault on my mother on what he did. He absolutely lied about something we don't have. Since my grandfather died over 20 years ago, my uncle is still of this mindset. Like I stated before, our cousin is getting married and we don't know her. It's very bizarre that he would pull a stunt like this. This is a complete ambush because they don't care about us. What is your opinion about this whole ordeal? more

Open Question: Why is the family being lied upon?

My Uncle's family is here in town and we have seen only him. When are Uncle would visit are Auntie and Cousin were not present. What makes matters worse is that when we would speak about them, are Uncle would say that they were doing alright. To pacify things throughout the years are Uncle would send gifts and that would be nice. Now because of all the years that have passed by the only reason why he was keeping in touch was because are Uncle assumed that we had money. There was this rumor that spread throughout the family that we had a grandoise amount of money. That all this time are Uncle feels that he is entitled to something that we don't have. This was his agenda the whole time. Time has evolved and we all are grown now and we never knew are Cousin what so ever. My sister and brother were children when she was walking the Earth. Recently, the family found out that this grown woman, which is are Cousin is getting married and were going to this pre wedding dinner, but not being invited to the actual wedding. There reason for coming to visit us because they still believe in that same old rumor story that we have money. They have lied about our family and us individually. It was intentionally done on purpose and they simply do not give a damn. My Uncle has blamed my mother for things that are not true. When they were children they both were adopted into the family. Meaning, my mother and her brother were adopted and given to my grandaunt to raise. My mother's father which is my grandfather took it upon itself to just raise the brother and separately broke them up on purpose. So, I don't know why he wants to place fault on my mother on what my grandfather did, he absolutely lied about something we don't have. Since this time, my grandfather died over 20 years ago and my Uncle is still of this mind set. Like I stated before our Cousin is getting married and we don't know her and it's very bizarre that he would pull a stunt like this. This is a complete ambush they don't care about us. What is your opinion about this whole ordeal? more

Resolved Question: What problems have you had with your guests?

I just want to vent to be honest. No need to try and give me advice, just sympathise and then vent as well =) I'm getting married on September 18th and I'm just over it. More specifically, I'm over the guests. We have a gift register and everyone is aware of it but they keep asking us what we want. If you don't want to use the gift registery, thats fine, but everything we want is on there. Perhaps this would make sense if the gift registry was full of expensive items, but the most expensive is $200 and the average is probably $30-40 and it starts at $6. It could also make sense if it was full of stuff we don't need, but I only moved out of home a couple of months ago and we just bought cheap stuff and some things we didn't even buy so we don't even have. My fiance still lives at home and is moving in after the wedding. So the things we have there are things we need (i.e dinner sets, irons, sheets) as well as things we only kind of need, but also kind of want (board games, cooking books, photo frames). My point is, if you don't want to use the gift registery, or even buy a present at all, thats fine, just don't ask us want we want. Issue number two: Seating plans. My family is going insane. There are 18 people on my mums side and they all want to sit together. The tables only fit 8-10. My mother suggested putting the tables together, but they are round. They are now thinking they will sit in one seat for the entree and then move around for the main. They're driving me insane. It's not like I'm putting people with people they don't know... I'm just separating them but everyone wants to sit with someone else. I even offered to let them do the seating plan and they were like, 'No, no, it's your day...' but if they really felt that, they'd drop it. Item 3. These two ladies are taking me on a 'suprise shopping trip' they are 20 years older than me and wont tell me what we're doing. I have a feeling we're buying lingerie but I think that I can manage that by myself actually. I don't even know them THAT well and I've already spent $$$ on lingerie. Lastly, the best mans wife. I'M READY TO THROTTLE HER! I'll list the issues: * She is singing at the wedding but wont let us hear it before hand?? * She has some how made it so the bucks show finishes at their house and they have a barbeque.. with her there... so while I'm sitting home on my lomesome, she is entertaining my fiances work mates... who are throwing the bucks show, not the best man...? * She is pregnant and has decided the only day she can go to get a scan is the day of the wedding... meaning her husband, the best man, has to go too. It's also the day they find out the sex of the baby. The thing is, I wouldn't even mind except for her constant need to try and justify it... she's justifying it because SHE thinks it's the wrong thing to do. I know they are free the day before, the day after... the week before, the week after... any other time except the morning of our wedding.. which means they cant come to the dinner the night before and the best man cant sleep over at my fiances like the other groomsmen are. My fiances a bit upset. * Lastly, she has asked if while the boys are getting ready, if her 11month old son can get photos with her husband... we cant even work out why this is necessary as they have the entire ceremony and reception and even going to the church and leaving the church.. When I told my fiance this, his biggest question was why she even thought she'd be there while they are getting ready... I'm not a total cow. I just would rather vent to randoms on the internet, get it out of my system and get on with being the lovely bride I am instead of venting to people I actually know. Okay, your turn! Biggest problems you're having/had with guests at your wedding. Or just people in general (photographers, caterers, people not invited) and please don't hate on me for ventingLike I said, advise isn't necessary. Issue number one, they can do what they want, but if they ask us what we want, we're going to tell them. 2. My care factors about a zero at this stage. I'm just letting it go and they can deal. 3. Of course I'll go. I think it's sweet, but I feel uncomfortable about it at the same time, I don't go underwear shopping with my mum, so why would I go with them? But yes, I'll go and I'll smile and I'll be thankful. I never said I'd do anything different. 4. *a. we asked her to sing a song while we're signing the registry. We're happy she is, we just didn't realise we wouldn't be about to hear it before hand. b. she hasn't booked the appointment yet, she just decided it will be on that day. She hasn't evne rung them. c. The point was that the plan was never to end at their house, but now it is and we aren't sure why. She just insisted that's what would happen. He never asked for it to be there, he was just told. This is after an entire day at the racesAdding this before I choose the best answer simply so I have more space 1stly... If they want to buy us something personal, they should decide that for themselves! We are not going to be asking for bicycles or drum kits, because they are not what we NEED. We don't care if they don't want to buy us something off the list, they should just do it and not ask what we want.... BECAUSE WHAT WE WANT IS ON THE FLIPPING LIST! SECONDLY, I am more than happy to go out with my two older friends. The fact is I do not expect them to buy me ANYTHING AT ALL! I am not saying 'Let's go shopping for shoes, but not lingerie.' I am saying 'Lingerie is a personal thing and I have not asked you to join me as I buy it...' I can not believe this is so difficult for people to understand. Thirdly, I do not care what they do on the bucks night. They can do whatever they want. The problem my FIANCE and I are having is that she is a female and it's a bucks night... we just don't understand why (there is more)We don't understand why she is imposing herself onto the one standard boys night. My fiance does not want his best mans pregnant wife there... My MoH is not bringing her boyfriend to the hens night?! Lastly. I have SIX family members coming from interstate, 5 family members that are never seen but have RSVPED and an older female cousin and my mother have newish boyfriends that they want to get to meet... LIKE HELL my family wants to sit with people they do not know when they have a limited time to get together and catch up. That's b.s if ever I've read any. EVEN if they all lived in the same city, they are middle aged and have family, why on earth would they want to get to know new people and make new friends? Have you even been to wedding and put with randoms? Because I have and EVERYONE hated it! However, in a way I appreciate you getting me mad as I'm getting it all out of my system, which is exactly my aim. more

Voting Question: MOH gift for Bride...?

I am the MOH for my best friend's (of 20 years) wedding. I am looking for a gift idea--something I can give her the night before; or the morning of the wedding that will make her day extra special. No jewelry or anything like that, she doesnt read or write in journals, which has been a lot of the ideas i have been reading online... I know it is hard for someone else to tell me what kind of meaningful gift to get, but I am having a really hard time thinking of something good enough for her on her special day! more

Resolved Question: Should I invite my best girlfriend's Moms to my baby shower?

I am part of 5 VERY CLOSE girlfriends. We are all friends of 20 years and have done everything together. We all served as bridesmaids in each others wedding, etc. I was the first to get married and did not invite their parents to my wedding because I come from a HUGE family and the venue could only hold so many people. I do wish I included them, but we are past that now (2 years later).. I am 7 months pregnant and my sister wants my invite list for a baby shower. I want to invite my friends mom's because I wasnt able to have them at the wedding. But i've heard that you should invite similarly to your wedding list when it comes to baby showers? I dont want it to look rude if I invite them or that they are only good enough for 1 event and not the other? I certainly dont want it to look like I just want more gifts either, but they have all attended all the other weddings and we see each others parents often. Is it in bad taste to invite them or not invite them?? any suggestions? more

Resolved Question: Im having a baby shower and I dont know if I should invite my best girlfriends mom's?

I am part of 5 VERY CLOSE girlfriends. We are all friends of 20 years and have done everything together. We all served as bridesmaids in each others wedding, etc. I was the first to get married and did not invite their parents to my wedding because I come from a HUGE family and the venue could only hold so many people. I do wish I included them, but we are past that now (2 years later).. I am 7 months pregnant and my sister wants my invite list for a baby shower. I want to invite my friends mom's because I wasnt able to have them at the wedding. But i've heard that you should invite similarly to your wedding list when it comes to baby showers? I dont want it to look rude if I invite them or that they are only good enough for 1 event and not the other? I certainly dont want it to look like I just want more gifts either, but they have all attended all the other weddings and we see each others parents often. Is it in bad taste to invite them or not invite them?? any suggestions? more

Resolved Question: What would you do in this situation ?

I have been invited to a wedding at the beginning of next month by my half brother and his girlfriend. The thing is i have only ever met him twice , once about 10 years ago and another time about a year ago. The thing is my mother will be there and i havent seen her in about 34 years , well i seen her about 20 years ago but only for a few seconds, she didnt speak to me or anything.So i dont want to deal with anything to do with her. I dont know how to approach the situation and i dont want to ignore his invitation because that would be a bit rude. Do i try get his phone number and explain why i dont want to go (hes a stranger to me ) or do i try get his address and send a gift with a sorry i cant make it ? Any thoughts or help appreciated Thank you :) more

Resolved Question: Do people not understand just basic consideration when it comes to weddings?

My husband’s brother has been engaged to this woman who is considerable older than him for a few years. They were supposed to get married in May, then in April. Nothing came of it. So all of a sudden, two days ago they call and let the family know they are getting married in less than a month. They have a justice of a peace wedding on a Saturday with the reception in the bar. Classy. Mind you, they don’t send out invitations. So now my husband and I are scrambling to buy plane tickets, get a kennel, HOPEFULLY get time off of work to travel the thousand miles away to the wedding and pay for a rental car. When all was said and done, we paid over $1,200 yesterday just to travel to a justice of a peace ceremony. My husband is so mad at the last minute ball drop that we are only going to give $100 for a gift instead of a customary larger gift. Why do some people not understand basic consideration for their guests to plan ahead? Do they forget that all immediate family does not leave 20 minutes away from them? The only reason we are going to this “ceremony” is to respect his parents. We are not too fond of spending thousands of dollars to go see a 5 minute ceremony for two people who are too drunk 60% of the time to understand other people work in this world. We are not free to travel at whim. Have you had any experience with people just dropping a wedding/JOP ceremony on you and just “expect” you to show up as if you owe them something? I would think this woman who is 55 would know what the proper etiquette is, but she thinks it is ok to surprise everyone and expect we show up to her “wedding.” Again, if these two complain about the $100 gift, should we state how we spent over $1,200 to fly out to see them, so the gift represents the cost of unexpected travel and inconsiderate forewarning? Or should we just keep our lips shut if they complain?Poodie, well if they were considerate to people maybe people would be considerate to them. They are drunks who think the world owes them everything. Even his father is pissed because he is trying to get time off of work as well. The entire family is annoyed that a JOP ceremony and party in the bar constitutes a wedding that requires us all to dish out more than a grand for.Well, if you don't like the gift option, you can yell at my husband. You guys think I am the seething one? You should see him. He just started a brand new job and it was embarrassing for him to go ask for time off literally two weeks after starting his new contract. I guess, we should celebrate drunken haggard love instead of being realistic. We are going to spend a lot of money to see two drunks who probably won’t even show up get married. My husband even called yesterday to tell his brother this wedding better happen, and he better not cancel like the last two. Yes, they cancelled the last two leaving us hanging. That is why we are both pissed. Some of you should stop acting like this wedding is something special. Amazing, you think since I am the woman I must be the bitter one. You can’t see that my husband is actually angrier than I ever could be. How would you feel if they cancelled two weddings on you? You guys act like we should be happy they are marrySeamstress, thanks for your response.. I actually told my husband, let’s not go and send a $500 check instead. I think I will use your answer regarding their complain about $100. I know they are going to complain. They want a lot of money.Lisa, if that is your opinion. No one would show up. Including his parents and us. You blame me, but you refuse to see that I mentioned everyone is angry about the same thing I am. Everyone is pissed. You attack me as the bad guy because I am the sister in law, but you don’t attack his parents or his brother for feeling the same way? How about you get over yourself? more

Resolved Question: what is a cheap gift to give at a wedding?

This couple has lived together for about 20 years so they have all the practical things for their home. I want to give them something thats about $50 or less but doesnt look that cheap especially because i am engaged to her son and i dont want to look bad. I would appreciate any suggestions. more

Resolved Question: Okay, if by your logic, the prophet was a pedofile... Then why did he not marry a hundred 10 year olds?

Firstly it never says in the Koran that Aisha was 10.... Only in the Hadiths and the accuracy and authencitiy of these is disputable.. ANYBODY COULD HAVE CHANGED IT TO SUIT THEMSELVES.... I personally believe she was 13-15 yrs old. But even if she was 10 it still wouldnt have been abnormal. Up until the 1800s 10 year olds were being married off in England and America. Ask your great grandmother how old she was when she married. Secondly, Muhammad was a very influential and powerful man and everyday, people asked him to wed their daughters, he could have married ANY WOMAN HE WANTED. He was pestered day and night with people coming to his house, offering him gifts, asking him to marry their daughters because they wanted to be associated with him. He could have married as many 10 years olds as he wanted but why did he only marry ONE? Thirdly, He had 11 wives. His first wife, Khadija, was 20 years his senior. He was 25 and she was 45 when they married. He was monogamous and faithful to her and he truly loved her. He remembered her everyday after she died. Even Aisha was jealous of her. After the death of Khadija, he took 10 other wives, he was 50 and past the age of lust so his choices were based on WISDOM..... NOT LUST. All his wives were widows or divorcees except for three.. Aisha and the other two, Safia and Maria were 13-15 yrs of age. more

Resolved Question: Should I go to the party? What would be a good gift?

One of my best friends moved half way across the world about 6 years ago. Since then she had a beautiful baby girl and got married a few months ago.. She moved back home and we definitely lost touch. She is having a post wedding shower tomorrow and I am still debating if I should go.. so much has changed and I don't know what kind of gift to get her.. She will be 20 in a few weeks and I just found out about this the other day!!! she couldn't get a hold of me and sent me a message on facebook. more

Resolved Question: My friend is having her engagement party in July, and I don't want to go, what should I do?

I know I should go but I don't want to spend the whole day discussing her engagement and wedding plans and stuff... so what should I do? I thought about going just to possibly meet some hot guys but I doubt there will be any there. its a pool/engagement party,,, like do I have to bring a gift?? Ugh I just don't wanna deal with it it's going to be so awkward, I mean she is my friend and I love her but this isn't my life like theres no point in me celebrating it, I don't want to. And before you say I am immature and blah blah, I am 19 years old, and she is 20 like why does she even want to get married now its stupid. But thats neither here nor there, I just am upset because I wanna be getting married too, so I am not dealing with her... impending vows very well and I don't want to deal with it and more than likely she'll ask me to be in the wedding which is something I don't want either. So what do I do?? Can I just tell her i'm busy?? more

Voting Question: How can I find famous celebrities married on June 20th?

I am making an elegant framed keepsake for a wedding gift with important dates. The only event that I can't find in history are famous celebrities who wed on June 20th. (Any Year) It's father's Day too! more

Resolved Question: Attending a wedding - is it necessary because it's family so to speak?

Just wondered when it was ok to say thanks but no thanks to attending a wedding when it involves family so to speak. My husband's cousin's son is getting married at the end of July. My husband has only seen his cousin twice in the past 8 years - once in passing and once at a funeral yet both live not far from one another. He told me that the last time he saw the son who is getting married was about 20 years ago. My husband doesn't really want to go but I know he's only going because his mommy is going as well as his brother and brother's wife. Unfortunately my husband is the people pleaser and doesn't want to look like a bad@$$ to others. I just looked at the gift registry and holy cow, you should see the big ticketed items asked for like $175 place settings. There was even a $349 platter that matched the place settings. I was told the bride to be has had a few showers already and got enough stuff to fill a house. I don't know, I'm thinking of this all as a one big huge gift grab and this was why we were invited. I'm told that about 600 people have been invited. Thoughts?Thanks for all of the answers here. I know I sound like a party poop and to be honest I used to love going to weddings in my younger years but then again I knew the people getting married very well. It just seems that when my husband saw his cousin at a funeral two months ago, bam we are invited to her son's wedding. Doubt we'll see or hear again from her unless there is another funeral. Still have a few weeks to decide. Thanks again.To the last poster about spending time with the husband, trust me when I say I'm constantly with him other than when he works through the week during the day. I'm just not the party person that I once was...unless it's with people I know. He really doesn't want to go but is only going to appease his mother who is 80 years old and she really doesn't want to go herself but is one of those people pleasers who feels if she doesn't go, then people will talk about her. Know what I mean? more

Voting Question: Really bad friend drama?

Background rundown: I got written up at work twice. For no apparent reason. A) For not signing a piece of paper that I forgot to sign to let them know I did the job. So without talking to me they assumed I neglected the job. The second write up was about them thinking I did not clean a room or whatever. The second write up was on a sunday a month ago. Drama: Basically on Sunday, I was stressed out becuase it was my second write up and things are going on and it was finals week. My friend calls to ask if she can use my discount sometime this week to get her bf a 230 something lizard. She seemed busy and I was busy too. And out of it. So I was like sure whatever. And that was the end of that. I was busy with a 8page single spaced paper, studying, four other pages, and plus I had to borrow my friends laptop because my computer broke that day. Thursday she calls to remind me and I tell her the truth that I would not feel comfortable with it. Just cuz I litterally can't afford loosing my job. She said she understood and what not. Just would have appreciated it if I told her sooner. And I said, yea I would have if I remembered? Than a few hours later she started writing on facebook how she hates fake friends and taht it was selfish and unresponsible of me to say no to her and all this stuff. So I called her out on it. And me and her got into this argument. And it was just a huge giant mess. She said I was unresponsible and stupid and all this fun stuff. Than the next day she doesn't say sorry, no she's like "Even though you started it and I Was calm about the whole thing, if you want come to my birthday party in a few weeks." I never replied to that. I'm not an angry person. I'm just done with drama like this. Do I even talk to her or is it worth it? (By the way I would have only saved her 30 dollars and on weds she was all complaining about how she doesn't have money adn what not and her bf spent part of her money she was goin to use. But of coarse she still wanted to get him his gift. and did not want to be like "Hey I used 200 dollars of my own money but I used about 20 dollars just cuz I was short." My bf would not mind if I did that! HE would be like no problem babe. Also, when we were arguing. she brought up how I asked her for gas money when she wanted me to drive her aroudn all day. I was like A) You told me to start asking. B) I asked for 5 dollars!?!?! Not like 20? FIVE DOLLARS FOR GAS. Also, when we were arguing she was all like "You didn't let me use your house when I got kicked out." (She ended up not getting kicked out and she said she wanted to live with me and my parents till her and her bf got their own place. This was a year ago, yes she brought it up. And I was like...yea I said no cuz if you lost your job or something(she quit five months later after this) my parents would bend over backwards for you adn teh yare already screwed over and would say everything is fine when it's not. I know how they work. I rather you be somewhere you can financially be and stay longer at and what not. So she brought that up and said I was a stupid horrible friend. more

Resolved Question: My boyfriend yells at me about things he has made up in his head...can any married or divorced folks help me?

My boyfriend was 25 when we met and is turning 27 in two days. I recently turned 20. He was normal, sweet, funny, and confident when we met. He becomes hysterical screaming and sobbing, throwing stuff and cussing me out over situations that haven't even happened. He always tells me I am going to leave him for a rich guy. Or a Japanese or Korean guy. Or both. He will even tell me what car these imaginary lovers/new boyfriends will drive. I know the problem arose because I simply told him I was surprised he didn't come from money, since not only has every guy I have dated been foreign and older than me (like my boyfriend), but also from very wealthy families. I regret mentioning this, but this happened two years ago when we started dating, and he will not let it go! My goal in life job-wise is to start my own chain store and make a lot of money so I can retire early and not have a life full of worry over money (my mom was a single mom). Plus, I think it would be really fun! He freaks out about this though and tells me when I am rich I will leave him. I am going to be an exchange student for 4.5 months in half a year to Japan because I have always wanted to go there. My boyfriend tells other people how happy he is for me, but freaks out at me and tells me I am going to cheat on him with a Japanese guy -- I would never and have never cheated on anyone! When we started dating, my boyfriend introduced me to his best friend. Well, one day his friend wrapped his sweater around my shoulders because it suddenly became windy as heck and my boyfriend ignored me...but he sure noticed that and freaked out at his friend! Now he hates the guy and even calls him his enemy. My boyfriend will parade me around to all his friends, and even sing wedding songs...and I think it is sweet he loves me so much...but it seems he has become very clingy and delusional. On our anniversary, he said he would buy me a ring to wear every day. I saw a ring for only $100 on Tiffany's.com and said I would pay for half-of it since I spent around that much on his gift. We went to Tiffany's, but when I saw the ring in person I decided I didn't like it, and said he didn't need to get me a gift. He freaked out and claimed I was implying he was poor (but I didn't want to wear a ring nor have either of us spend $50 on something I didnt really like). He screamed at me in public for hours...went home and screamed at me some more although I told him I just didn't want the ring. He would just throw things, slam doors and cuss me out and said he hated me etc. He became so crazed he almost hit me (I moved), and I thought he was going to kill me when he came in the kitchen while I was cooking and started grabbing stuff...so I locked him in. He screamed that he was going to break the door down, but I packed some stuff and quickly unlocked the door and ran away. It had been hours of him yelling, and was 1:00 am...He found me and took me back to the house. He said he was sorry, but I started having a panic attack and couldnt breath because I was so scared of him...he just cussed me out more. My boyfriend has done lots of crazy stuff before, but I am really worried because he is so delusional. If he doesn't get a job he will claim they didn't like him as a person. If his ''friends'' talk smack about him in front of him he claims they are joking. His friends (many who arent his friends anymore) have told me my boyfriend is crazy and that even when they went to a bar he got drunk and started screaming at random strangers for no reason -- just cussing them out. I don't drink (I'm not legal anyways), but when he gets drunk he usually just sleeps...but lately he will start crying that I'm going to leave him. I am sorry this is so long. My boyfriend has a lot of other issues, but I am simply wondering if anyone here has been or is married to someone who makes things up and goes crazy about them. Thank you so much!!!I know it sounds like all I talk about money...but I honestly dont. This question does simply because a lot of his delusions come of the couple times I mentioned my career goals (which ARE normal things to speak about at my age not to mention in a relationship) and because of that one thing I mentioned. I don't blame you for thinking what you stated, but I always come off poorly on Y!A. I don't even shop in regular clothing stores -- I go to thrift stores...and hardly even shop there. I am not a materialistic person, but want to make my own money because I was raised knowing how hard it can be not having money. I hope this helps.ps: his grandma was abusive, but not his parents. more

Resolved Question: If there are five owners of a home and each own 20 % can the house be sold if one person refuses to sell?

My grandmother passed away last year and left her house to my mother and her three sisters and one brother. The house is a duplex my mom my brothers and sisters and I live on one side and my aunt lives on the other side. one of my aunts has had money problems all her life she has three kids who are all over the age of 30 who still depend on her. She would get the money to support them from my grandmother because she had access to her bank account and was able to take money as she pleases. My grandmother is now gone and she does not have that source of money and she can no longer help her three kids out anymore, so now she calls my aunt and uncle crying to them that its not fair that we get to live in her mothers house and that she wants to sell it. But hte messed up thing is that she already owns a house that is built on a lot that my grandmother gave her as a wedding gift and all her and her husband had to do was build a house on it. They all own homes of their own plus 20 % of my moms home so they have no problem selling the house because it is us who will be homeless and not her! She had the nerve to tell my mom that I am 22 years old and I should already be out on my own, when her son is like 35 and she barley kicked him out. Is not like I am planning on staying in this house forever I am going to college and hope to own my own home one day. But what I want to know is, that if they all want to sell the house but my mom and aunt refuses to sell it, will they be able to force them to sell or will all five of them have to agree to sell it??? more

Resolved Question: I need presents help!?

Im in 8th grade and my 2 best friends I'm not gonna see a lot his summer. 1 is going to camp and Both me and my other friend are really busy. I want to MAKE them something that they'll always have (at camp and wherever) but i don't know if i want t to be something small they can carry in their pocket o something like a picture frame album? Any ideas? Help please! Also, we call ourselves the 3 musketeers and i have lots of pics of us doing stuff if that helps. There's this math teacher at my school and she's not MY math teacher but she helped me plan a baby shower for my other teacher and she's getting married so I want to do something for her but it has to be this Monday so i need a gift for her from all the students and also anything for her getting married please! I want it to be kinda like a wedding shower with some of that stuff, but not completely. Thanks!!!! I have a teacher who came halfway through the year because my other teacher went on maternity leave. She's not coming back after this year and we're all going to miss her so I need a gift that can be from all the kids in her classes and is handmade. And I need it by Monday. She's in her 20's if that helps and likes the show Jersey Shore. I REALLY want it to be special. Thanks!! more

Resolved Question: what gift shall i get for my brother's wife to be?

i study abroad and i'm coming back to Jordan in the summer for my brother's wedding. I haven't met his fiance yet, and i want to get her a gift for when i get back. What's nice and appropriate considering i'm a 20-year-old guy? It could be a wedding gift or just a casual welcome to the family gift... more

Resolved Question: How do I plan a bridal shower for 70 guests?!?

My best friend is getting married. She's lived in the area her entire life so she has tons of friends and relatives in the area. Thus, the guest list she gave me for her bridal shower is 70 people. I'm kind of freaking out. My wedding only had 50 guests. Her's is going to have 300. My bridal shower that she threw for me five years ago had about 10 guests. We already established than 70 people will not fit in my 1 bedroom apartment, so the shower will be at the mother of the bride's house. But, as the maid of honor, I'm still in charge of planning (and paying for) the shower. The other bridesmaids either don't live in town or I don't know them, so I don't really have any help. I also don't know most of the guests so I can't really ask them to do much. Estimates I've found online average a "cheap" bridal shower at costing $10 per guest. Needless to say, I can't drop $700 on a bridal shower, even if she is my best friend. I was planning to spend $100, but I also assumed the shower would be 20-30 people.... Even looking at bridal shower invitations at Target is overwhelming me. Yes, it's only $8 for a 10-pack, but $8 x 7 = $56. And then postage will be another $30. $86 just for invitations?!?! I also need paper plates, napkins, cups, forks, flowers and food.... Forget favors... Also games are out of the question, even though she said she wanted to do games. With 70 people it'll take 3 hours just to open the gifts!! And then I still need to get her a gift! And then she also asked me to throw her a lingerie shower. But I made her PROMISE that it won't be more than 10-15 people and we will definitely have it at my apartment. For that one I can bake a cake, brew a pot of coffee and put a vase of flowers on the table. No big deal.... But even that will cost me something. I'll have to buy paper plates, forks and cups because I don't own dishes and silverware for 10! I'm just very overwhelmed. I tried to talk her into breaking in down into 2 smaller showers but she said no because she's already having another shower thrown by her church so we've got 3 showers already and she doesn't want to be at a shower every weekend this summer. So.... help! Any advice is appreciated. I know she's not trying to be a bridezilla, she just really isn't thinking at all about how much of a strain this is on me. I want to throw her a nice party but I just can't afford it. I also work full time so I don't have time to hand-make 70 invitations. I'm also supposed to be hand-addressing the envelopes for her 300 wedding invitations.... ACK!!! more

Voting Question: Do I need to give my friend a wedding gift?

I am 19 years old, and friend about 3 years older than me is getting married in June. I am going to be the "guest book girl". hahahaa I'm really not sure if I need to get her a gift, and if so, how much I should spend on it? If I was like, married with a decent income, I would feel like it's probably appropriate to spend like $50 on a wedding gift. But as a college student, younger than the people getting married, I don't feel as though I need to spend that much on a gift. If I had the money I would get them a really nice gift, but I just don't. I already got her a bridal shower gift, and college graduation gift, within the past month or so. Is it necessary to get her a gift? They are registered at Bed Bath & Beyond. Would it be okay if I bought them a gift that was only like $10-$20? To be honest, I hate feeling like I HAVE to get someone a certain gift just because it's "tradition" and it's what's "expected" . Like- they make a list just like kids do on Christmas, and we go out and buy exactly what they want just because they're getting married? They have this set of 3 cookie pans on their list, and it's $10. I was thinking I could get these, and write a couple recipe cards to put along with it?? But then part of me thinks I'd rather just not get a gift, and they might not even notice since they'd be getting so many gifts, instead of only spending $10 and risk looking cheap. What should I do?! I'm not trying to be horribly cheap, it's just that I'm on an extremely limited budget. more

Resolved Question: How do I deal with son's upcoming marriage?

My son's mother and I never married. He is now 20 and plans to get married next spring. His mother and the bride to be's parents are asking me for $2,500 for wedding expenses. I feel like an outcast. His mother married and her husband adopted my son many years back. I don't have that kind of money and my gift to him and his wife could be put to better use than blowing it all on a fancy wedding. Am I wrong in my thinking? I feel that I should be able to give a gift in any amount I can afford. more

Resolved Question: If someone gave you a dvd player for a wedding gift, what would you do?

I just spoke to my friend Quinton who graduated from high school last year with me and he told me he just got married recently to his long time girlfriend since the 6 grade. He said everything was great until someone gave him a DVD Player as a wedding gift for him and his wife. He said he was very pissed off because it was a $20 dvd player on sale at best buy. I don't really understand him. If someone gave me a DVD Player as a wedding gift for me and my future wife, I would accept it. So if someone gave you a DVD Player as a wedding gift, what would you do ? I would accept any gift and be thankful for it. more

Resolved Question: If someone gave you a dvd player as a wedding gift, what would you do ?

I just spoke to my friend Quinton who graduated from high school last year with me and he told me he just got married recently to his long time girlfriend since the 6 grade. He said everything was great until someone gave him a DVD Player as a wedding gift for him and his wife. He said he was very pissed off because it was a $20 dvd player on sale at best buy. I don't really understand him. If someone gave me a DVD Player as a wedding gift for me and my future wife, I would accept it. So if someone gave you a DVD Player as a wedding gift, what would you do ? I would accept any gift and be thankful for it. more

Resolved Question: What's a good wedding gift to give my friends?

My two friends are getting married but I'm unsure what to get them. What do you think? They are both 20 years old. more

Resolved Question: friends we know for 1 year have a wedding on cruise ship. only 20 people invited - do we still give a gift?

most friends were not invited - mostly family. Again only knoew them for a year or so. Hang out with them once a month or so. What is expected or proper as far as a gift. Is a gift appropriate? Thanks, Randy more

Resolved Question: Value and rarity of 1926 $20 St. Gaudens Double Eagle gold coin?

My wife's grandfather gave us a golden coin as a wedding gift a couple of years back. The wedding was in Poland and the story is that the grandfather bought the coin years ago under communism through the black market as an investment. I know nothing about coins but through a little research on the web, think I may have something of significant value. From what I can tell, it is a 1926 $20 Saint Gaudens Double Eagle. Please excuse my ignorance but I will try my best to describe it. It is a very shiney golden and heavy. It has no blemishes or tarnishes that I can see. If you were to look at it with a very scrupulous eye, I guess it has some minor scratches on the flat surfaces but I don't know if they would be considered scratches or not, but its definitely in great to exceptional condition. I'm just wondering the rarity and value of this coin. I wouldn't consider selling it, and would love to have a family heirloom on my hands. Additionally, how should I store it? I just have it wrapped in a paper towel right now, inside a jewellery box. Any information would be appreciated. As an additional aside, it was very entertaining to bring it back from Poland. I left Poland immediately after the wedding, as my wife stayed an additional 2 weeks. I kept the coin in my wallet, and really set the metal detector off in the Warsaw airport. I took my wallet out, and sent it through the x-ray machine and saw on the screen, it lit up like a giant glowing ball. They let me through security to the gate. Then about 15 mins. later two guards came walking around looking and eventually approached me. They said in broken english, "We need to see your billfold". They pulled coin out and looked at it puzzled. I wasn't sure of the legality or tax consequences of carrying the coin so I said nervously "It's my lucky coin". The guards looked at it, tossed in the air, one made a comment about how heavy it was, literally tossed it about 2 feet to the other guard, who gave it back to me and sent me on my way. more

Resolved Question: Is it "proper" to bitch to at the bride?

Ok I, the bride, have one bridesmaid that has been a constant problem for me. A little background info: She's my fiance's best friend's wife, and a friend of mine. I couldn't get her a job at the salon and spa that I work at and since then she, and her family, haven't been able to attend dinners, birthday parties or other events. My fiance and I were going to get married 4 years ago but had a medical emergency and had to use all the wedding fund for other things. She was a close friend then and a bridesmaid. Now we are getting married this summer, after finally saving up enough. I haven't seen or heard much from her but I felt obligated to keep her in the wedding party. She has been a headache for me and my MOH. I let the girls pick what style of dress they individually wanted as long as it was my color and length, that way they could stay in their individual budgets. When I reminded her (very nicely) that she was getting close to the deadline to send in her dress money, she bitched that her dress was to expensive but didn't like any other dresses that were cheaper. She was the last to pay, after many nice reminders, and waited a month after the deadline to send a check. Now I have to pay a $20 rush fee for each dress to get them in time. (They had to be ordered together for dye consistency.) Now after my little bridal shower she sent me a long email complaining about everything from everyone having to give my MOH $30 for stuff for the shower to not being included in anything. I know that my MOH paid for most of the shower out of her shallow pocket. Two of my five bridesmaids wanted to give her $50 instead. The problem bridesmaid decided to just not pay. She was late to set up, was the only one in jeans and a tee, and left before most of the guests. She never offered to help with games or with the gift opening portion of the party, just sat and chatted with "her" friends. We had to ask her multiple times to please get in some group pictures. After everything she complained that my MOH did too much for the shower. Over all I didn't really think that she had the right to bitch at all let alone at me. SO, MY QUESTION IS: IS IT "PROPER" TO BITCH AT ME FOR ALL THIS OR SHOULD SHE HAVE TALKED TO MY MOH AND OTHER BRIDESMAIDS ABOUT IT (AT LEAST THE SHOWER COMPLAINTS)? and I HAVEN'T RESPONDED TO THE EMAIL YET BUT SHOULD I BITCH BACK??I'm not really cursing, beyotch is what I'm going for. All men do is complain about women complaining. She was never told that she had to do anything other than get her dress and be at the wedding. My MOH just let everyone know what her ideas were for the shower and asked for anyone else's input. She also let the others know when she was going to go set up and in what order they had decided on doing things. No "orders" were given. It would have been polite for her to stay and help us clean up. Her and her husband, as far as we know, are not tight on money. A week before she sent in her dress money she bought a big screen tv and a PS3 for her husband and I didn't say anything about it to her. I offered to loan her money for her dress multiple times but she reassured me that she had the money and would send it out. And she told the MOH that $30 was absolutely not a problem. more

Resolved Question: Are these really true?

1. He’s not that into you if he doesn’t make the first move. 2. He’s not that into you if he doesn’t answer your online ad. 3. He’s not that into you if he doesn’t call you or text you or e-mail you for a date. 4. He’s not that into you if he doesn’t ask you out by Wednesday for Saturday night. 5. He’s not that into you if he only wants to see you during the week. 6. He’s not that into you if he ends the date first. 7. He’s not that into you if he asks you to split the check. 8. He’s not that into you if he expects you to meet him half way or travel to him in a long-distance relationship. 9. He’s not that into you if he cancels a date more than once. 10. He’s not that into you if he doesn’t ask you to be exclusive after sex and/or a couple of months. 11. He’s not that into you if he hits on your girlfriend. 12. He’s not that into you if he forgets your birthday. 13. He’s not that into you if he doesn’t give you a romantic gift for Valentine’s Day. 14. He’s not that into you if he skips a week. 15. He’s not that into you if he doesn’t want to meet your parents and friends. 16. He’s not that into you if he doesn’t want to spend New Year’s eve with you. 17. He’s not that into you if he doesn’t take you to his office holiday party. 18. He’s not that into you if he doesn’t write “love” on cards or hold your hand at the movies. 19. He’s not that into you if he breaks up with you. 20. He’s not that into you if he talks about his ex. 21. He’s not that into you if he doesn’t want to have sex. 22. He’s not that into you if he doesn’t propose. 23. He’s not that into you if he proposes but won’t set a wedding date. 24. He’s not that into you if he wants to vacation separately or spend a lot of time apart. 25. He’s not that into you if he’s married to someone else! more

Resolved Question: I'm Getting Married And I'm Confused?

I'm 19 years old and I'm about to get married in like 5 weeks . They guy I'm getting married to is perfect he is a christian guy who completely adores me always compliments me , always buys me gifts , when I need to talk he listens . He hates argueing and is so wise he is very responsible and I said I didn't want to kiss till our wedding day and he has completely respected that he never pressures me or over steps the boundries he has been content holding my hand for almost two years now ( he has never kissed anyone by the way) , he is also really good looking , before he started dating me he had like 20 girls in love with him . Me on the other hand I don't even know what he sees in me I have been such a bad and selfish girlfriend and Fiance , I am always doubting our relationship wondering whether we are meant for each other , If he doesn't text me at the right time I spit the dummy , If he looks away once while I'm talking I give him such a hard time and I feel that I am very moody and that breaks my heart because he doesn't deserve it and I feel as if I will ruin his life if I marry him yet I can't live without him and I feel as if I'm really immature. I mean I do tell him I love him but these moods just come over me and I become this cold hearted person. Before I dated him I was fine everyone thought I was just great I'm always a positive thinker and I was a really happy person do you think i'm just a selfish person that is why I can't handle being in a relationship? Should I marry him?? ps: I'm sorry this is long .Thankyou for all your answers , I will talk about it with my Fiance and I either have to grow up and mature or break it off with him because I really don't want to make him miserable . more

Resolved Question: What if I disappoint everybody by not showing up to this wedding?

Do you remember in the Spiderman movie where spiderman says to his girlfriend something like, "you just don't understand how complicated something so simple as showing up at the right time can be." I feel like a misunderstood superhero. Well, I have a son with a disability. It is very hard to find a sitter to care for him properly. Not just anybody can help him and in many cases, I can't find help and in that case - I simply don't attend events even weddings, funerals, etc. These are important life events, but my son is still young and I'm responsible for his safety. So, it's not easy to raise a child with a disability and I'm oftentimes misunderstood even by relatives who are supposed to get it and be supportive. So, now I'm trying to figure out what to do. A relative on my in laws' side is getting married this summer and if I cannot attend this wedding - people are going to be majorly disappointed. My in laws really love me but I have been disappointing them more and more because of my son in not showing up to all of their various celebrations and family events. They will not visit my home even though they are welcome to. So, the question is, if it so happens that I cannot attend this wedding - what can I do other than having my husband attend without me with a nice gift- to show that it wasn't because I hate them or that I don't care - it's simply the way life happens sometimes? For my in laws, it will be the first purely Catholic wedding in the family in 20 years. So, it's going to be the most invested wedding with all of the Catholic relatives showing up expecting to see all of the married couples in the family together. It's like they just don't understand that I'm out there literally saving this boys life on a daily basis and they just never see me doing that. How do I help the situation or soften the blow if I can't make it?This is a proper Catholic wedding, children are not invited and my son is chaotic because of his disability.There are different service agencies but recently all funding for respite services has been cut. In fact, service agencies are cutting back as much as possible so I can't just call and ask agencies for help. I do have a group of people who help when they can - but not everyone is availabe everytime and sometimes, no one is able. more

Resolved Question: My father-in-law is out of line! Advice?

My father-in-law is pretty unbelievable. My husband is Indian and worships him, doing everything to make his life easier. It is a real struggle for me to talk to my husband about his father. My father-in-law has a debt that my husband pays each month (it was $1200 a month, but I have reduced it to 800, it is currently changing again to 400 and I will stop it entirely at the end of this year- his father can still work and pay for himself). We are having a 2nd wedding coming up just for my in-laws (different cultural ceremony, a year after the first), that my father-in-law is magically paying $5,000 toward... basically we are paying for the whole thing. He just sent an email to my father, who is only coming to this because my husband requested it, asking for half the contribution toward the wedding. In the email he lied to make the total cost 20,000 and is asking for my father to pay half to him ($10,000!!- the actual total cost, if that). My father-in-law is also taking any gifts we get from this wedding, which my husband agreed to. Last month when he talked to my husband he said, "I have plans for your next tax return money", which made even my husband angry. He calls my husband "my investment" and "ATM machine", which really is true and not funny to me. When I married my husband, his father wrote an email saying how my job wages can be utilized (for his benefit). I really don't like this man and now my father is furious with my father-in-law. My father-in-law is throwing a fit because my father refused to pay him, and wants to uninvite my family from this second wedding. Of course my husband agrees with his father. I have been very understanding toward my husband's feelings for his father, and for the "family" debt (not such a big issue anymore), and for this second wedding just for their cultural ceremony- but now it is just too much. My father-in-law needs to be put in line regardless of how my husband feels. How would you handle this situation? more

Resolved Question: What type of wedding gift is appropriate in this situation?

My boyfriend and his brother (my bestfriend/flatmate) are going home to England for the first time in about 8 years this September for their dad's wedding, what sort of gift is appropriate for me to send with them, as I am not going? I chat online with her every couple of days, mostly about the boys and how they are, as she has never met them. I feel it is necessary that I get them a gift as they invited me to the wedding but I am obviously not going to make it. Also, ideas for the boys gifts? They are 20 and 23. Thank you very much.I've written in pretty plain English. "She" is obviously the bride, the boys are obviously Boyfriend and Best Friend, she has never met them, as aforementioned that they haven't been back in eight years. Thanks ^^ more

Resolved Question: Is it wrong to feel like this?

I feel like life has ignored me when it comes to relationships. I've been single forever, no relationship beyond 5 mths, no wedding proposal/firm commitment, no valentines/birthday gift and I'm in my late 20s. I'm intelligent and educated and I've been told I'm attractive but the men I don't like are attracted to me, especially those 20 years older than me. I feel like I will never get my break, this sucks so much! Why me?Maybe people read wrong I said men like 20 years older even 40 years older than me constantly hit on me which is a major turn off it makes me feel violated. Like will I have to make them my final resort? I am actually someone who people like to talk to and I have male friends but not many female friends, it's like I can be "one of the guys" and act "cool" though I'm a girly girl. Relationships jus bring me down that's why my post seems so gloomy.....I'm in one of my moods. more

Resolved Question: Am I wrong to want to cut off this relationship?

Preview your question Queen of Sheba Your Question I have a super fat friend who looks eleven months pregnant. She's really sick from diabetes and a hernia plus hepatitis C and might have breast cancer now she told me a few days ago. If feel sorry for her because she is younger than me but so obese, plus she has no teeth at all. When she needs rides I come out of my way and take her places I don't really feel like going to but I know she has no one else that will help her. I also am the only one besides her new husband who visits her when she is the hospital for some sort of hernia operations which she has had four so far. I bring her gifts of food and clothes and paid for her hotel room for he wedding when she married a man in need of a green card. The one that visits her in the hospital. Thats her fourth husband. She isn't a looker but she has low standards in men and always finds someone, good for her. BLut usually its someone who needs a green card or is on drugs and wants to use her car and share the roof over her head. And sometimes she is homeless and I've helped her find temporary homeless housing three times over the past ten years. sShe is poor and needy, and I am somewhat well off because I worked hard when I was younger. I find this comment about my breast which she's repeated several times now both aggravating and derogatory. Even insulting. I never let on I was offended. Shes about 49 and I'm 57/. Do you think she is trying to make me feel bad, self conscious and freakish or am I being too sensitive? Would you disappear from her life if you were me or would you continue to show her kindness and help her out in spite of this rude way of referring to a part of myself I felt fine about except since her comments about my breasts, which she refers to as "those big ol' things." I happen to be very healthy but I have 40DD natural breasts and am onlyh 5 feet tall. People have teased me since high school and I don't appreciate a derogatory comment from someone I have gone out of my way to help and give rides to so many times. Shes on welfare and foodstamps and has a bad relationship with her only daughter who was a high school drop out while I have money I saved up from working for years so I could retire and I have a son who just graduated from college. I didn't tell her he graduated because I didn't want to make her feel badly. I'm thinking of dropping her and not visiting her anymore next time goes to the hospital (paid for by the government) and not answering her calls anymore. Am I being too sensitive? I feel she is is jealous and she also maintains a friendship with a woman who broke into my house while I was with my dying father, and stole everything I owned plus my car. She calls me up to tell me how they got together. And I don't want to hear about her because that person even killed my dogs I really loved. If you were me would you ignore her calls and cut off this friendship inwhich I do all the giving and she does all the taking? I used to loan her money, like 20$ at a time then never asked for it back but then she mentions how she gave money to this woman who stole from me and killed my dogs when I was away. And never has offered to pay back what she 'borrowed' yet can afford to give money to some one who hurt me badly then brag to me about it. Am I wrong to be thinking of cutting Rosy out of my life? more

Resolved Question: I have a super fat friend who looks eleven months pregnant. She's really sick from diabetes and a hernia whil?

If feel sorry for her because she is younger than me but so obese, plus she has no teeth at all and has hepatitis C. I bring her gifts like food and clothes and paid for her hotel room for he wedding when she married a man in need of a green card. She is poor and needy, and I am somewhat well off because I worked hard when I was younger. I find this comment about my breast which she's repeated several times now both aggravating and derogatory. Even insulting. I never let on I was offended. Shes about 49 and I'm 57/. Do you think she is trying to make me feel bad, self conscious and freakish or am I being too sensitive? Would you disappear from her life if you were me or would you continue to show her kindness and help her out in spite of this rude way of referring to a part of myself I felt fine about except since her comments. Shes on welfare and foodstamps and has a bad relationship with her only daughter who was a high school drop out while I have money I saved up from working for years so I could retire and I have a son who just graduated from college. I didn't tell her he graduated because I didn't want to make her feel badly. I'm thinking of dropping her and not visiting her anymore next time goes to the hospital (paid for by the government) and not answering her calls anymore. Am I being too sensitive? I feel she is is jealous and she also maintains a friendship with a woman who broke into my house while I was with my dying father, and stole everything I owned plus my car. She calls me up to tell me how they got together. And I don't want to hear about her because that person even killed my dogs I really loved. If you were me would you ignore her calls and cut off this friendship inwhich I do all the giving and she does all the taking? I used to loan her money, like 20$ at a time then never asked for it back but then she mentions how she gave money to this woman who stole from me and killed my dogs when I was away. And never has offered to pay back what she 'borrowed' yet can afford to give money to some one who hurt me badly then brag to me about it. Am I wrong to be thinking of cutting Rosy out of my life?I was joking, but she really does look more pregnant than nine months, due to her hernia operation. I've gotten wonderful feedback, supportive and painfully honest. Its really hard to choose a best answer as even the harshest answer was insigntful. I thank you all and please don't feel badly if I can't choose your answer when it is just as good as the one I am forced to choose. more

Resolved Question: Baby Shower Etiquette : Please Help!?

Is it rude to send someone a baby shower invitation knowing they can't make it? For example: they live in another state and they are not a family member of yours. Upon receiving this very same baby shower invitation, is it rude for that person not to send a gift?? On that note, I am the one receiving the invitation, but I can't help but feel that the person who is sending me the invite, is only doing it to get a gift out of me. She has been in my life as a distant on and off friend for about 20 years now. She is also a bit of a shallow snob and hasn't been a good or sincere friend to me; even when I was her maid of honor at her wedding......eeeek!! What should I do?! Does this change the circumstances at all? I rarely talk to her, (maybe twice a year at best) unless she needs something or wants to talk about herself.To Alex M.: I told her I would not be able to make it to the shower before she even sent me the invitation; so pretentious is not the word for it. Our friendship has been in the "off mode" for quite some time now, if you even want to call it a friendship. more

Resolved Question: Wedding Invite, What do you think?

Dear Person Who We Have Little Or No Contact With, Hopefully you don’t know that we tied the knot a few years ago because we are inviting you to our wedding! When we first got married we didn’t have the chance to milk our nearest and dearest (along with semi strangers like you) for gifts. We plan on doing it now. The Bride will be having 5 showers, an invite requires you send a gift to each one. Shower #1 - A garden party. What’s in a garden? Green! Yes, we are requesting that each “guest” provide the bride with the best greens around, cash. Hosted by the mother of the bride. Shower #2 - China Shower. The bride has registered for the most expensive china and glassware she can find. A minimum of two full place settings is required. Hosted by the mother of the groom. Shower #3 Honeymoon Shower. Yes the lovely couple is throwing themselves a shower to pay for the honeymoon. Along with some cash they will accept luggage and resort wear. Shower #4 Lingerie Shower - The maid of honor is a sales person for a lingerie company that hosts at home parties. No need to bring a gift, just plenty of cash to purchase lingerie for the blushing bride. Shower #5 Bar Shower - This is a coed shower to stock the bar. Please bring bottles of booze (top shelf only) and barware. There will be a cover charge of $20 per person. The loving couple will be having a private wedding ceremony (or should I say, they had a private one 5 years ago), but there will be a reception. Admission charge is $100 per person. Food and beverages will be available for purchase. They will not be having a dollar dance. Inflation has upped the price to a $10 dance. There will also be a wishing well. Participation is required for all fund raising events. When you are ready to depart you will be handed a cheesy favor as a reminder of this glorious day. The groomsmen will be at the door to help you empty your wallet of all remaining cash before you leave. If you are unable to attend please be sure to send a check for at least $500 per person to the loving couple. You wouldn’t want them to miss out on your generosity just because you had prior plans. Thank you! (please be aware that this thank you will replace the traditional thank you for your gifts. If you would like a handwritten thank you please leave a self stamped addressed thank you card in the wishing well along with a $20 handling fee) - yes, this is a joke but sadly some will take it seriously enough to try to get away with doing some of the things mentioned. more

Resolved Question: I just need to vent a little.?

My daughter will be 16 in December and she's asked me since last year if she could have a "Sweet 16" party. She's had a couple of birthday parties but with her birthday in December half her friends couldn't come. You know we can't afford a gift for her since it's in December and that's when Christmas is. So she's had a ruff time with birthdays. She can't help when she was born. It was just meant to be. It gets better..her older sisters birthday? Well it's the day after hers! God for bid that I had to have two in December, Any way. Since she's going to be 16 I figured it would probably be a lot easier getting her friends to come. She posted on her facebook that we were already planning her party and she's had 20 kids already asking if they could come. WOW I was surprised. Yeah, I'm planning it now. I have to find a place to have all those kids. She has a theme. Don't freak out about the name of the theme. It's just the name. The theme is "RAVE". She wants the neon lights and stuff that would be fun for them. She wants a cake that has the three different layers that look different but match. Well I found a place that works with my budget. Where I wanted to have it is going to cost $600 for 5 hours,plus a $75 cleaning fee, plus a $60 set up fee. Every where I look the cost of these places are so high priced! I mean $600? For a room? The place I found is nice. It's brand new and it was only $150 for 4 hours. No extra fees. I only had to put up a KEY deposit that I'll get back after the party. The problem is the place is really a bit to small. Not by much but it's too small. I don't know what I'll do. I don't want her disappointed. And I surely don't want her friends to walk in and go, OMG HOW LAME! I feel like I've been hit with a truck! I can put up tables for them to sit an eat or I can put up some tables, or no tables. I'm afraid there won't be enough room for them to dance or move around if I put enough tables for everyone to sit. I was doing the food myself and having the cake made. So I still need a couple of tables for the food to sit out on. This is going to be so awful it I can't get this worked out. Some of the kids are still going to be 15 and will need their parents to bring them and pick them up so I don't want it to be out of their way. I'm trying so hard to find a place in my area that's big enough for them all. I just want this to be the best party ever for her. Yeah, yeah yeah, there's 2 girls I really want to show up too. I know, I know, I know it's wrong. But evertime my daughter says she like something they try to beat her out so they can say she copied them. Like back last year she asked me if she could get her nose priece. It's small so I said yes. Tell me if one of the girls didn't rush to go get her's first just so she can tell my daughter she copied her. It's like that all the time. It makes my daughter feel like crap. So I want to really do this right. I sure hope I can find a place that's nice and affordable. I'm almost afraid to call any of the other places due to they cater to big wedding and lakes out front with big green lawns! I can't imaging the cost! Yeah I have to stay in budget no matter that I want to show up those girls or not. She has 60 people she's inviting and I'm sure all won't come but just in case they do I still need to make sure there's room for them all and plenty of room to dance. Lord what am I to do! more

Resolved Question: Is this a good gift? For a step- daughter to be?? As in marriage?

Hello. My fiance and I have been together for quite some years. We are getting married at the end of this month, actually. He has a daughter, who will be my step daughter, and she calls me mom, because her mother gave her up at birth, then her mother died. We are going to Hawaii for a week, then we are getting our girly, a wedding gift and a family gift. We are getting her a Puggle. Her name will be either Harper, Butter, Bailey or Cali. We are looking into Butter. It is a fawn puggle. In Hawaii, where we are staying at, there is some breeders. They are selling the female puggle for $150 and we are then going to a pet botique down there. Then we come back the day her easter break week happens, and then her 8 week old puppy comes. She doesnt know, and I think she would love it. We have a "doggy proofed house", from the fact that we petsit relatives dogs sometimes. She is responsible and she really wanted a dog. It is like a late birthday gift, a late valentines day gift, a wedding gift, and a happy easter gift. It is worth it for 10-20 years. Is this dog worth it? Is this a good gift? more

Resolved Question: How to talk to my horribly cheap friend?

i have had a cheap friend for the last decade. i can't stand it. she never wants to spend money. she never wants to go anywhere b/c that means she may have to spend money. the only time she'll go somewhere is if im driving and treating or if it's free and im driving! she's never given me a single gift for myself, my two kids, my wedding, my housewarming though i always have class and have done that for her for her graduation and her first place and anytime i see something nice on sale i grab it for her too just because. im talking $10 and $20 dollar gifts here. nothing outlandish. just to show some decency and consideration. goodness we were supposed to be going on a spring break vacation w/ just her and another female friend and myself. we've been planning this for the last year. here it is, time to make the reservations and we were all talking about it and she was just sitting there not pitching in anything for the rental car, the hotel, the spa, the NOTHING! i asked her if she had been saving for the trip and she told us no. she's not going b/c she doesnt see the point of us going to the spa and the beach and etc ETC while we're there. yeah right, when she was just talking all excitedly about it a couple of weeks ago. like what on earth was she thinking we were going to do, sleep in the car for 3 days?! she just thought we were supposed to pay for her! what a cheapskate!! i really cant stand the broad. she is single w/ no dependents, a college graduate w/ a great career. she is just singlehandedly the cheapest person i know. she wears faded clothes and no brand shoes. i don't understand people like this. im expecting her to come up w/ something grand one day. i mean, she must be saving for something huge right?! its no wonder im her only friend and she has no man. in fact, she's never had a boyfriend to this date. i wish there were some way to tell her about herself but i can't find the right words. or maybe i should just drop her and call and say merry christmas once a year? help me more

Resolved Question: I am highly empathetic. I am interested in knowing more about people called empaths, info please?

I have also had prophetic dreams and sometimes just know things, like how something will turn out. Dreamed of the event & the location my family would end up at after my Mom's funeral in a town I was unfamiliar with. We ended up there purely by accident and found a huge group of family at a long table, just as I dreamed. My Mom was walking around the table smiling and looking healthy. She had been in a wheelchair for years. Dreamed of a Christmas morning my husbands family had 20 or so years before as a newly wed sleeping at their home the 1st time. The electric blanket we slept under was my MIL's Christmas gift 15 years before from my FIL. She cried when she opened it because she thought it was the coat she really wanted. I saw it in my dream, knew what she was expecting to be in the package. Saw her in her red robe and cat-eye glasses. When I woke up I thought I had had a peculiar dream, but didn't mention it to anyone. That night as we slept we had the dual controls mixed up, so my husband was too warm and I was too cold. As we were sitting around talking we mentioned our mix up w/ the electric blanket. My FIL then said, "Let me tell you a story about that blanket..." I stopped him and said wait I know what you are going to tell me and told them the story of the electric blanket.... They weren't freaked out, which I still think is odd. I am still freaked out by it, even though it was just the 1st of many experiences that i can't explain. I've felt weird about myself for a long time and would like to hear from a level headed person with knowledge or experience. THANK YOU!Sorry, I just spilled. I have never explored this with anyone but my husband and he doesn't know what to make of me. I just want you to have a sense of my experiences. I was at an airport and had a long wait for my next flight. I was sitting in a deserted waiting area and it was as if a lot of future events were downloaded into me. I was reading a book called Saved by the Light, by Dannion Brinckley who became empathic after a near death experience. And sometimes I will watch a news story and know what really happened. A guy saved a child from a burning apartment house and was being hailed a hero. I just knew he had set the fire. Watching the news maybe a month later I found out I was right. People, I am cautious of and if I like you I like you immediately. When I get close to people I feel kind of responsible for them.I also believe I give incredibly good advice. I attract people who need my help. If someone close to me is going through pain I suffer too. Maybe more than other people do. more

Resolved Question: How much money should we save up before we get married?

We're not engaged yet, but I want to start saving up. I currently have no money whatsoever. I'm a CNA and get paid 11.20/hour. I only work 54 hours/month because I'm a full-time college student. I'm going to be an RN. I just started so I have about three years left. My girlfriend gets paid 9/hour and works 80 hours/month. Obviously, this means that together we don't make very much money. I know many of you will say it's not a smart idea, but we're going to get married. Since I'm one of Jehovah's Witnesses, all of the things I need to be married, such as the wedding, all house supplies, and gifts of money that will probably add up to a few thousand dollars will be provided. So basically, I need to know how much money a couple needs to live off of? And how much money I need just in case something goes wrong? We're planning on moving into an apartment that is 450/ month. more

Resolved Question: Are these people being inconsiderate?

Quick summary...a situation with sister-in-law and her fiance....within the past year, these people have -moved into a new house (we helped them move, paint, decorate, gave them various "hand-me-downs") -attended their house warming party- with gift -attended their engagement party (with gift after being directed to a registry), declined "chipping in" for the engagement party -have given 2 birthday presents and 2 christmas gifts to the small child of future BIL, who is from a previous relationship -just received invite to bridal shower with registry gift -obligated to split cost of bachelor party -wedding gift and now we are just informed of their intentions to be pregnant ASAP after wedding. I am already dreading the baby shower, birth, etc I feel bad for feeling this way, I mean we can afford it if we budget for it but money is tight. And I think its more of the point that it seems like its just all about them. More more more. I have hosted 2 charity events this year and sent them invites (the cost to attend was about $20 each time) and they were both ignored. What am I supposed to do here? Suck it up and keep the family peace? It just seems never ending, like when does this gravy train stop? We don't do anything socially with these two and they dont acknowledge out birthdays or anything. Should I just cut them some slack for being a bit self-absorbed right now? Advice please!! NO one else in the family has mentioned that this is too much. more

Resolved Question: How do I get rid of many Class Set of books?

Need to get rid of Class Sets of Novels? Over the years I have been teaching I have accumulated MANY class sets of novels. Some of them range from just 3 or 4 copies (for book clubs) to 20-30 for a full class set. I am including a partial list below. Any ideas how I might be able to ?sell? them? I would love to get even a percentage of what I have put into them back. The reason I am looking to sell is that most of them are outdated or out of the age range for what I am currently teaching. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated. A Christmas Carol 10 A Raisin in the Sun 20 A Separate Peace 9 Adventures of Huckleberry Finn 30 Adventures of Tom Sawyer 11 America Street 25 Bud, Not Buddy 22 Call of the Wild 12 Cat Ate My Gymsuit 24 Clay Marble 12 Farewell to Manzanar 12 Glory Field 19 Beyond the Burning Time 22 Flowers for Algernon 20 Gifted Hands 22 Hatchet 11 I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings 26 Izzy Willy-Nilly 11 Jacob Have I Loved 21 Necessary Roughness 12 Night 12 Nothing But the Truth 28 Our Only May Amelia 10 Out of the Dust 16 Pigman 20 Scorpions 19 Sorrows Kitchen 20 Things Fall Apart 14 To Kill a Mockingbird 11 Watsons Go to Birmingham 18 Wish You Well 11 Wouldn't Take Nothing For My Journey Now 21 Amelia Bedelia 16 Diary of a Young Girl 2 Free In The Skies 12 Hope Was Here 7 In the Year of the Boar and Jackie Robinson 3 Jamaica's Find 8 James and the Giant Peach 3 Joey Pigza Loses Control 5 Members of the Wedding 7 Miracle Boys 4 Mirette On The High Wire 3 Molly's Pilgrim 8 Native Son 3 Slam! 3 Soldier's Heart 13 True Confessions of Charlotte Doyle 7 Where The Red Fern Grows 8 Pact, The 4 A Year Down Yonder 4 more

Resolved Question: Need to get rid of Class Sets of Novels?

Over the years I have been teaching I have accumulated MANY class sets of novels. Some of them range from just 3 or 4 copies (for book clubs) to 20-30 for a full class set. I am including a partial list below. Any ideas how I might be able to ?sell? them? I would love to get even a percentage of what I have put into them back. The reason I am looking to sell is that most of them are outdated or out of the age range for what I am currently teaching. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated. A Christmas Carol10 A Raisin in the Sun20 A Separate Peace9 Adventures of Huckleberry Finn30 Adventures of Tom Sawyer11 America Street25 Bud, Not Buddy22 Call of the Wild12 Cat Ate My Gymsuit24 Clay Marble12 Farewell to Manzanar12 Glory Field19 Beyond the Burning Time22 Flowers for Algernon20 Gifted Hands22 Hatchet11 I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings26 Izzy Willy-Nilly11 Jacob Have I Loved21 Necessary Roughness12 Night12 Nothing But the Truth28 Our Only May Amelia10 Out of the Dust16 Pigman20 Scorpions19 Sorrows Kitchen20 Things Fall Apart14 To Kill a Mockingbird11 Watsons Go to Birmingham18 Wish You Well11 Wouldn't Take Nothing For My Journey Now21 Amelia Bedelia16 Diary of a Young Girl2 Free In The Skies12 Hope Was Here7 In the Year of the Boar and Jackie Robinson3 Jamaica's Find8 James and the Giant Peach3 Joey Pigza Loses Control5 Members of the Wedding7 Miracle Boys4 Mirette On The High Wire3 Molly's Pilgrim8 Native Son3 Slam!3 Soldier's Heart13 True Confessions of Charlotte Doyle7 Where The Red Fern Grows8 Pact, The4 A Year Down Yonder4 more

Resolved Question: How many brides miss their wedding day?

This is just a fun little survey for all brides who have already had their wedding day! Write down your answers, I'd love to read them. :) I was just looking at pictures of the day my hubby and I said our I do's & I miss it so much. So I decided I'd reflect on it, who says the fun of the wedding has to be over after we have it anyway? Lol. 01. What was your wedding color? 02. How many Bridesmaids/Groomsmen did you have? 03. What venue did your wedding take place at? 04. What venue did your reception take place at? 05. How many people were originally invited? 06. How many actually attended? 07. What type of dress did you wear? 08. Who was the designer of your wedding gown? 09. Did you do a live band or DJ at your reception? 10. What was your first dance song? 11. Who walked you down the aisle? 12. What day did you get married? 13. Was the day you got married the original date all along? 14. How much did you spend altogether for the wedding? 15. Where did you honeymoon at? 16. What's your grooms name? 17. Who was your maid/matron of honour? 18. Who was his best man? 19. Did you have a bachelorette/bachelor party? 20. Did you have a bridal shower? 21. Did you get more gifts than cards or more cards than gifts? 22. Would you have done anything differently? 23. Were you nervous? 24. What type of flowers did you carry? 25. Do you miss planning your wedding day? 26. Are you planning to do a vow renewel any time in the future? 27 Are you guys planning on kids any time soon now that you're mr & mrs? 28. What was your maiden name? 29. What's your new last name? 30. Are you enjoying married life? MY ANSWERS: 01. What was your wedding color? Palm Beach Coral 02. How many Bridesmaids/Groomsmen did you have? 2 of each. 03. What venue did your wedding take place at? Northwest Presbyterian Church. 04. What venue did your reception take place at? Northwest Presbyterian Church. 05. How many people were originally invited? 65. 06. How many actually attended? 57. 07. What type of dress did you wear? A princess gown. 08. Who was the designer of your wedding gown? Michael Angelo. 09. Did you do a live band or DJ at your reception? DJ. 10. What was your first dance song? I Can Love You Like That By John Michael Montgomery. 11. Who walked you down the aisle? My grandpa. 12. What day did you get married? September 19th 2009. 13. Was the day you got married the original date all along? No, we originally planned on July 25th 2009. 14. How much did you spend altogether for the wedding? $4,7000.00 15. Where did you honeymoon at? Orlando Florida. 16. What's your grooms name? Ryan. 17. Who was your maid/matron of honour? Ashley, my life long best friend. 18. Who was his best man? Rob, his brother. 19. Did you have a bachelorette/bachelor party? No, we just went to dinner seperately with friends. 20. Did you have a bridal shower? Yes. 21. Did you get more gifts than cards or more cards than gifts? Equal amount of both. 22. Would you have done anything differently? Definitely. 23. Were you nervous? At first! 24. What type of flowers did you carry? Roses and baby's breath. 25. Do you miss planning your wedding day? So much. 26. Are you planning to do a vow renewel any time in the future? Maybe our 5 years or 10 years. 27 Are you guys planning on kids any time soon now that you're mr & mrs? Of course. 28. What was your maiden name? Venable. 29. What's your new last name? Whitaker 30. Are you enjoying married life? To the fullest.CONGRATS! Sounds very pretty, we almost did lavendor, close to purple lol.Mrs.B we honeymooned at Disney too! :)Congrtulations to the future brides who did this survey, may both your weddings be evrything you want and more but even more so may your marriage be beyond what you ever expected! more

Resolved Question: Advice on how to let him know how sorry I am and get past this.?

My husband and I met in our junior year of high school and dated all through college. We had both decide to wait tell marriage to have sex. Well at least that was the original plan and I totally agreed. But my friends kept telling me that I should have sex with at least one other person to prevent me from wondering my whole life about being with someone besides my husband. Also they pointed out that losing my virginity on my wedding night could really ruin the mood with the pain and blood the first time. That I might even have to wait a few days after the first night to have sex again. Which would really put a damper on the honeymoon mood. At the time it all made sense and sounded like smart idea. But hind sight is 20/20 and dummy me I went ahead and had sex with a old friend that had always wanted to with me. I knew it would be safe since he was already married and it would be just a one time thing we both agreed and he made me promise to never tell his wife. Like I would no way and told him the same went for him. Since he never used condoms with his wife we didnt have any to use and figured I was safe time of the month. I was wrong so know find myself pregeant on top of everything else. Ok if all this was not bad enough my new husband found out about this somehow at our reception after the wedding. He didn't even mention it again tell we were at the hotel in the bahamas. I knew something wasn't right after the reception and flight to bahamas but thought he was just tired. When he confronted me I told him the truth and used the logic that had convinced me that it was a good idea. That had done it really for the two of us so that our honeymoon wouldn't be messed up with me being a virgin that first night and possibly not being able to have sex for a few days because of the first time pain. Well as can guess that didn't go over very well. We spent the two weeks in the bahamas and you can guess was about the worst two weeks of my life. Our talking amounted to more of what going to do that day to pass the time and none of that involved any sort of physical contact and definetly no sex. It wasn't tell missed my period the last few days of our honeymoon it should have started or shortly after got back that found out was pregenant. My husband has moved into the house that his grandparents gave us for wedding gift. I still am staying at my apartment for the moment. He says that we will work through this and that I am not to abort the baby since its not the babies fault. But he does not seem sincere in the working through it. He is very anti abortion and says that if I were to abort the baby that would be the last straw. So think he is really just trying to work through this for the baby even though it is definetly not his. One of my friends says that should just take one of those morning after pills that this early it will just cause me to miscarry the baby and my husband would just think I lost it. I am so confused right now I love him so much and really did do this for him, well not the get pregenant part. more

Resolved Question: any ideas for a unique wedding gift?

My sister is getting married in a couple of months and my husbands brother is getting married shortly after. Neither have a gift list as they have been living with their partners for a number of years so both have asked for money for their honeymoon. We will be giving them both money but thought we would get them a small, personal gift as well. We only want to spend about £20.00 on each (as the majority of the gift will be the money). Any ideas for something small, unique and personal? more

Resolved Question: How to say "No Gifts" properly in wedding invite?

My fiance and I our in our late 20's. Neither of us have married, and we have both been well established as individuals, and have now lived together for the past 2 years. We really do not want gifts at all for our wedding. We dont want to make a list of things people "should" buy for us, and since we already have a household set up, we dont need a blender or a matching set of designer plates. How can we properly address this to people we invite? We understand that we are being presumptious in assuming people "should" be gifts and we are denying them, but we think its even worse to set up a list of exactly what we want. We just dont have any need for things people generally buy for a wedding. Is there a way to accomplish this with tact? Thanks!We don't want money either. And I am just baffled at how its "bad manners" to not want people to be out money giving us something, and how its not "bad manners" to type up a list demanding exactly what you want (registries). I really like the charity ideas though, that will probably be what favor. Thanks! more

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Save the date: This week in celebrity wedding anniversaries - Sacramento Bee

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Rhee and Johnson tell their wedding guests to stay home - Washington Post

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Obituary: Rev. George A. Fitch / Homewood minister for more than 30 years - Pittsburgh Post-Gazette

ready to minister at last-minute weddings and funerals ... Fitch was "a gift from God," said Mary Ann Howard, of the Hill District. Ms. Howard met Rev. Fitch when she visited the church years ago. She is now a member. "

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I pored over beautiful cake photos in wedding magazines. I reminded myself that I had baked for years, and even ... cake pan. Bake cupcakes or sheet cake for about 20 ... making a cake for the newlyweds is a wonderful gift ...

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How to do your wedding on a budget - MyFinances.co.uk

... wedding is not cheap either. But help is at hand. If you are balking under the stress of finding the cash for your nuptials, or need a loan to attend all the weddings you've been invited to this year ... wedding ...

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Dallas-Fort Worth area news briefs for Sept. 3 - Dallas Morning News

... wedding plans crashed after the venue they reserved months ago closed abruptly last week. Gift certificates to the swanky Dallas hotel will be offered to the 21 couples who can redeem the voucher within the year ...

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Bakery remains vital legacy of Bellevue business district's heyday - Pittsburgh Post-Gazette

gift cards and a free TV. Mr. Porco, 53, bought the bakery from his father-in-law, Andy Slezak, 20 years ago. Since then he has renovated ... and the business creates about a dozen wedding cakes each weekend through ...

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Facebook page leads search for loved ones in Haiti - San Francisco Gate

09-01) 20:28 PDT PORT-AU-PRINCE ... Aviation inspector Isenia also left a parting gift. On past trips, the 54-year-old had made a heart out of towels on the bed he shares with his wife. That morning, he glued a heart ...

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