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Resolved Question: Is this a good gift? For a step- daughter to be?? As in marriage?

Hello. My fiance and I have been together for quite some years. We are getting married at the end of this month, actually. He has a daughter, who will be my step daughter, and she calls me mom, because her mother gave her up at birth, then her mother died. We are going to Hawaii for a week, then we are getting our girly, a wedding gift and a family gift. We are getting her a Puggle. Her name will be either Harper, Butter, Bailey or Cali. We are looking into Butter. It is a fawn puggle. In Hawaii, where we are staying at, there is some breeders. They are selling the female puggle for $150 and we are then going to a pet botique down there. Then we come back the day her easter break week happens, and then her 8 week old puppy comes. She doesnt know, and I think she would love it. We have a "doggy proofed house", from the fact that we petsit relatives dogs sometimes. She is responsible and she really wanted a dog. It is like a late birthday gift, a late valentines day gift, a wedding gift, and a happy easter gift. It is worth it for 10-20 years. Is this dog worth it? Is this a good gift? more

Resolved Question: How to talk to my horribly cheap friend?

i have had a cheap friend for the last decade. i can't stand it. she never wants to spend money. she never wants to go anywhere b/c that means she may have to spend money. the only time she'll go somewhere is if im driving and treating or if it's free and im driving! she's never given me a single gift for myself, my two kids, my wedding, my housewarming though i always have class and have done that for her for her graduation and her first place and anytime i see something nice on sale i grab it for her too just because. im talking $10 and $20 dollar gifts here. nothing outlandish. just to show some decency and consideration. goodness we were supposed to be going on a spring break vacation w/ just her and another female friend and myself. we've been planning this for the last year. here it is, time to make the reservations and we were all talking about it and she was just sitting there not pitching in anything for the rental car, the hotel, the spa, the NOTHING! i asked her if she had been saving for the trip and she told us no. she's not going b/c she doesnt see the point of us going to the spa and the beach and etc ETC while we're there. yeah right, when she was just talking all excitedly about it a couple of weeks ago. like what on earth was she thinking we were going to do, sleep in the car for 3 days?! she just thought we were supposed to pay for her! what a cheapskate!! i really cant stand the broad. she is single w/ no dependents, a college graduate w/ a great career. she is just singlehandedly the cheapest person i know. she wears faded clothes and no brand shoes. i don't understand people like this. im expecting her to come up w/ something grand one day. i mean, she must be saving for something huge right?! its no wonder im her only friend and she has no man. in fact, she's never had a boyfriend to this date. i wish there were some way to tell her about herself but i can't find the right words. or maybe i should just drop her and call and say merry christmas once a year? help me more

Voting Question: I am highly empathetic. I am interested in knowing more about people called empaths, info please?

I have also had prophetic dreams and sometimes just know things, like how something will turn out. Dreamed of the event & the location my family would end up at after my Mom's funeral in a town I was unfamiliar with. We ended up there purely by accident and found a huge group of family at a long table, just as I dreamed. My Mom was walking around the table smiling and looking healthy. She had been in a wheelchair for years. Dreamed of a Christmas morning my husbands family had 20 or so years before as a newly wed sleeping at their home the 1st time. The electric blanket we slept under was my MIL's Christmas gift 15 years before from my FIL. She cried when she opened it because she thought it was the coat she really wanted. I saw it in my dream, knew what she was expecting to be in the package. Saw her in her red robe and cat-eye glasses. When I woke up I thought I had had a peculiar dream, but didn't mention it to anyone. That night as we slept we had the dual controls mixed up, so my husband was too warm and I was too cold. As we were sitting around talking we mentioned our mix up w/ the electric blanket. My FIL then said, "Let me tell you a story about that blanket..." I stopped him and said wait I know what you are going to tell me and told them the story of the electric blanket.... They weren't freaked out, which I still think is odd. I am still freaked out by it, even though it was just the 1st of many experiences that i can't explain. I've felt weird about myself for a long time and would like to hear from a level headed person with knowledge or experience. THANK YOU!Sorry, I just spilled. I have never explored this with anyone but my husband and he doesn't know what to make of me. I just want you to have a sense of my experiences. I was at an airport and had a long wait for my next flight. I was sitting in a deserted waiting area and it was as if a lot of future events were downloaded into me. I was reading a book called Saved by the Light, by Dannion Brinckley who became empathic after a near death experience. And sometimes I will watch a news story and know what really happened. A guy saved a child from a burning apartment house and was being hailed a hero. I just knew he had set the fire. Watching the news maybe a month later I found out I was right. People, I am cautious of and if I like you I like you immediately. When I get close to people I feel kind of responsible for them.I also believe I give incredibly good advice. I attract people who need my help. If someone close to me is going through pain I suffer too. Maybe more than other people do. more

Resolved Question: How much money should we save up before we get married?

We're not engaged yet, but I want to start saving up. I currently have no money whatsoever. I'm a CNA and get paid 11.20/hour. I only work 54 hours/month because I'm a full-time college student. I'm going to be an RN. I just started so I have about three years left. My girlfriend gets paid 9/hour and works 80 hours/month. Obviously, this means that together we don't make very much money. I know many of you will say it's not a smart idea, but we're going to get married. Since I'm one of Jehovah's Witnesses, all of the things I need to be married, such as the wedding, all house supplies, and gifts of money that will probably add up to a few thousand dollars will be provided. So basically, I need to know how much money a couple needs to live off of? And how much money I need just in case something goes wrong? We're planning on moving into an apartment that is 450/ month. more

Resolved Question: Are these people being inconsiderate?

Quick summary...a situation with sister-in-law and her fiance....within the past year, these people have -moved into a new house (we helped them move, paint, decorate, gave them various "hand-me-downs") -attended their house warming party- with gift -attended their engagement party (with gift after being directed to a registry), declined "chipping in" for the engagement party -have given 2 birthday presents and 2 christmas gifts to the small child of future BIL, who is from a previous relationship -just received invite to bridal shower with registry gift -obligated to split cost of bachelor party -wedding gift and now we are just informed of their intentions to be pregnant ASAP after wedding. I am already dreading the baby shower, birth, etc I feel bad for feeling this way, I mean we can afford it if we budget for it but money is tight. And I think its more of the point that it seems like its just all about them. More more more. I have hosted 2 charity events this year and sent them invites (the cost to attend was about $20 each time) and they were both ignored. What am I supposed to do here? Suck it up and keep the family peace? It just seems never ending, like when does this gravy train stop? We don't do anything socially with these two and they dont acknowledge out birthdays or anything. Should I just cut them some slack for being a bit self-absorbed right now? Advice please!! NO one else in the family has mentioned that this is too much. more

Voting Question: How do I get rid of many Class Set of books?

Need to get rid of Class Sets of Novels? Over the years I have been teaching I have accumulated MANY class sets of novels. Some of them range from just 3 or 4 copies (for book clubs) to 20-30 for a full class set. I am including a partial list below. Any ideas how I might be able to ?sell? them? I would love to get even a percentage of what I have put into them back. The reason I am looking to sell is that most of them are outdated or out of the age range for what I am currently teaching. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated. A Christmas Carol 10 A Raisin in the Sun 20 A Separate Peace 9 Adventures of Huckleberry Finn 30 Adventures of Tom Sawyer 11 America Street 25 Bud, Not Buddy 22 Call of the Wild 12 Cat Ate My Gymsuit 24 Clay Marble 12 Farewell to Manzanar 12 Glory Field 19 Beyond the Burning Time 22 Flowers for Algernon 20 Gifted Hands 22 Hatchet 11 I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings 26 Izzy Willy-Nilly 11 Jacob Have I Loved 21 Necessary Roughness 12 Night 12 Nothing But the Truth 28 Our Only May Amelia 10 Out of the Dust 16 Pigman 20 Scorpions 19 Sorrows Kitchen 20 Things Fall Apart 14 To Kill a Mockingbird 11 Watsons Go to Birmingham 18 Wish You Well 11 Wouldn't Take Nothing For My Journey Now 21 Amelia Bedelia 16 Diary of a Young Girl 2 Free In The Skies 12 Hope Was Here 7 In the Year of the Boar and Jackie Robinson 3 Jamaica's Find 8 James and the Giant Peach 3 Joey Pigza Loses Control 5 Members of the Wedding 7 Miracle Boys 4 Mirette On The High Wire 3 Molly's Pilgrim 8 Native Son 3 Slam! 3 Soldier's Heart 13 True Confessions of Charlotte Doyle 7 Where The Red Fern Grows 8 Pact, The 4 A Year Down Yonder 4 more

Resolved Question: Need to get rid of Class Sets of Novels?

Over the years I have been teaching I have accumulated MANY class sets of novels. Some of them range from just 3 or 4 copies (for book clubs) to 20-30 for a full class set. I am including a partial list below. Any ideas how I might be able to ?sell? them? I would love to get even a percentage of what I have put into them back. The reason I am looking to sell is that most of them are outdated or out of the age range for what I am currently teaching. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated. A Christmas Carol10 A Raisin in the Sun20 A Separate Peace9 Adventures of Huckleberry Finn30 Adventures of Tom Sawyer11 America Street25 Bud, Not Buddy22 Call of the Wild12 Cat Ate My Gymsuit24 Clay Marble12 Farewell to Manzanar12 Glory Field19 Beyond the Burning Time22 Flowers for Algernon20 Gifted Hands22 Hatchet11 I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings26 Izzy Willy-Nilly11 Jacob Have I Loved21 Necessary Roughness12 Night12 Nothing But the Truth28 Our Only May Amelia10 Out of the Dust16 Pigman20 Scorpions19 Sorrows Kitchen20 Things Fall Apart14 To Kill a Mockingbird11 Watsons Go to Birmingham18 Wish You Well11 Wouldn't Take Nothing For My Journey Now21 Amelia Bedelia16 Diary of a Young Girl2 Free In The Skies12 Hope Was Here7 In the Year of the Boar and Jackie Robinson3 Jamaica's Find8 James and the Giant Peach3 Joey Pigza Loses Control5 Members of the Wedding7 Miracle Boys4 Mirette On The High Wire3 Molly's Pilgrim8 Native Son3 Slam!3 Soldier's Heart13 True Confessions of Charlotte Doyle7 Where The Red Fern Grows8 Pact, The4 A Year Down Yonder4 more

Resolved Question: How many brides miss their wedding day?

This is just a fun little survey for all brides who have already had their wedding day! Write down your answers, I'd love to read them. :) I was just looking at pictures of the day my hubby and I said our I do's & I miss it so much. So I decided I'd reflect on it, who says the fun of the wedding has to be over after we have it anyway? Lol. 01. What was your wedding color? 02. How many Bridesmaids/Groomsmen did you have? 03. What venue did your wedding take place at? 04. What venue did your reception take place at? 05. How many people were originally invited? 06. How many actually attended? 07. What type of dress did you wear? 08. Who was the designer of your wedding gown? 09. Did you do a live band or DJ at your reception? 10. What was your first dance song? 11. Who walked you down the aisle? 12. What day did you get married? 13. Was the day you got married the original date all along? 14. How much did you spend altogether for the wedding? 15. Where did you honeymoon at? 16. What's your grooms name? 17. Who was your maid/matron of honour? 18. Who was his best man? 19. Did you have a bachelorette/bachelor party? 20. Did you have a bridal shower? 21. Did you get more gifts than cards or more cards than gifts? 22. Would you have done anything differently? 23. Were you nervous? 24. What type of flowers did you carry? 25. Do you miss planning your wedding day? 26. Are you planning to do a vow renewel any time in the future? 27 Are you guys planning on kids any time soon now that you're mr & mrs? 28. What was your maiden name? 29. What's your new last name? 30. Are you enjoying married life? MY ANSWERS: 01. What was your wedding color? Palm Beach Coral 02. How many Bridesmaids/Groomsmen did you have? 2 of each. 03. What venue did your wedding take place at? Northwest Presbyterian Church. 04. What venue did your reception take place at? Northwest Presbyterian Church. 05. How many people were originally invited? 65. 06. How many actually attended? 57. 07. What type of dress did you wear? A princess gown. 08. Who was the designer of your wedding gown? Michael Angelo. 09. Did you do a live band or DJ at your reception? DJ. 10. What was your first dance song? I Can Love You Like That By John Michael Montgomery. 11. Who walked you down the aisle? My grandpa. 12. What day did you get married? September 19th 2009. 13. Was the day you got married the original date all along? No, we originally planned on July 25th 2009. 14. How much did you spend altogether for the wedding? $4,7000.00 15. Where did you honeymoon at? Orlando Florida. 16. What's your grooms name? Ryan. 17. Who was your maid/matron of honour? Ashley, my life long best friend. 18. Who was his best man? Rob, his brother. 19. Did you have a bachelorette/bachelor party? No, we just went to dinner seperately with friends. 20. Did you have a bridal shower? Yes. 21. Did you get more gifts than cards or more cards than gifts? Equal amount of both. 22. Would you have done anything differently? Definitely. 23. Were you nervous? At first! 24. What type of flowers did you carry? Roses and baby's breath. 25. Do you miss planning your wedding day? So much. 26. Are you planning to do a vow renewel any time in the future? Maybe our 5 years or 10 years. 27 Are you guys planning on kids any time soon now that you're mr & mrs? Of course. 28. What was your maiden name? Venable. 29. What's your new last name? Whitaker 30. Are you enjoying married life? To the fullest.CONGRATS! Sounds very pretty, we almost did lavendor, close to purple lol.Mrs.B we honeymooned at Disney too! :)Congrtulations to the future brides who did this survey, may both your weddings be evrything you want and more but even more so may your marriage be beyond what you ever expected! more

Resolved Question: Advice on how to let him know how sorry I am and get past this.?

My husband and I met in our junior year of high school and dated all through college. We had both decide to wait tell marriage to have sex. Well at least that was the original plan and I totally agreed. But my friends kept telling me that I should have sex with at least one other person to prevent me from wondering my whole life about being with someone besides my husband. Also they pointed out that losing my virginity on my wedding night could really ruin the mood with the pain and blood the first time. That I might even have to wait a few days after the first night to have sex again. Which would really put a damper on the honeymoon mood. At the time it all made sense and sounded like smart idea. But hind sight is 20/20 and dummy me I went ahead and had sex with a old friend that had always wanted to with me. I knew it would be safe since he was already married and it would be just a one time thing we both agreed and he made me promise to never tell his wife. Like I would no way and told him the same went for him. Since he never used condoms with his wife we didnt have any to use and figured I was safe time of the month. I was wrong so know find myself pregeant on top of everything else. Ok if all this was not bad enough my new husband found out about this somehow at our reception after the wedding. He didn't even mention it again tell we were at the hotel in the bahamas. I knew something wasn't right after the reception and flight to bahamas but thought he was just tired. When he confronted me I told him the truth and used the logic that had convinced me that it was a good idea. That had done it really for the two of us so that our honeymoon wouldn't be messed up with me being a virgin that first night and possibly not being able to have sex for a few days because of the first time pain. Well as can guess that didn't go over very well. We spent the two weeks in the bahamas and you can guess was about the worst two weeks of my life. Our talking amounted to more of what going to do that day to pass the time and none of that involved any sort of physical contact and definetly no sex. It wasn't tell missed my period the last few days of our honeymoon it should have started or shortly after got back that found out was pregenant. My husband has moved into the house that his grandparents gave us for wedding gift. I still am staying at my apartment for the moment. He says that we will work through this and that I am not to abort the baby since its not the babies fault. But he does not seem sincere in the working through it. He is very anti abortion and says that if I were to abort the baby that would be the last straw. So think he is really just trying to work through this for the baby even though it is definetly not his. One of my friends says that should just take one of those morning after pills that this early it will just cause me to miscarry the baby and my husband would just think I lost it. I am so confused right now I love him so much and really did do this for him, well not the get pregenant part. more

Resolved Question: any ideas for a unique wedding gift?

My sister is getting married in a couple of months and my husbands brother is getting married shortly after. Neither have a gift list as they have been living with their partners for a number of years so both have asked for money for their honeymoon. We will be giving them both money but thought we would get them a small, personal gift as well. We only want to spend about £20.00 on each (as the majority of the gift will be the money). Any ideas for something small, unique and personal? more

Resolved Question: How to say "No Gifts" properly in wedding invite?

My fiance and I our in our late 20's. Neither of us have married, and we have both been well established as individuals, and have now lived together for the past 2 years. We really do not want gifts at all for our wedding. We dont want to make a list of things people "should" buy for us, and since we already have a household set up, we dont need a blender or a matching set of designer plates. How can we properly address this to people we invite? We understand that we are being presumptious in assuming people "should" be gifts and we are denying them, but we think its even worse to set up a list of exactly what we want. We just dont have any need for things people generally buy for a wedding. Is there a way to accomplish this with tact? Thanks!We don't want money either. And I am just baffled at how its "bad manners" to not want people to be out money giving us something, and how its not "bad manners" to type up a list demanding exactly what you want (registries). I really like the charity ideas though, that will probably be what favor. Thanks! more

Resolved Question: Why? Why did I talk to her about it?

I'm planning my demise. July 23rd, 2010. The day before my 21st. Why? Because in 20 years, I haven't seen anything good. Not a damn thing. Sure there's some stuff that's tolerable, and it might even seem good, but it always comes with more trouble than it's worth. Before you say it, I've been in love to the point where I would have given them anything. To say I'd die for them wouldn't mean anything since my value of life means that I'd die for just about anything. I would have lived for her would be more appropriate. From what I can tell, the feeling was the same. It was good. Even that was fleeting, and meaningless in the end. Since that, I've been planning. It's been 3 years since I started, and it's coming to an end. I have a life insurance policy set up. I have one night of 3 beautiful women and as much alcohol and drugs as I can swallow, paid for by a friend who thought it would buy an extension on my life. I feel bad for him, but if it goes to plan, he'll think it was an accident anyway. But... I just finished talking with my friend about my plans... About what I was doing. Why? I don't know. I couldn't stop. I'm still compelled to... I told her everything, and she seemed accepting of it, but it's still a major risk to my plans. If she says anything to anyone, they can lock me away in a mental institution. That's a fate worse than death right there, and it's one reason why I'm trying to avoid making this look like an obvious suicide. Here in Canada, your family has the right to have you chained to a bed and pumped full of tranquilizers if you make an attempt at escaping this curse. I checked. They've done it before. What I've taken away from this lesson? If you're gonna do it, do it right, or you suffer a fate worse than death. But I digress... I told my friend everything. My plans, and my second thoughts (Which I've planned for, hence the policy. I'm too deep into this to get out now). I told her about my friend, about the one that wanted me to walk her down the aisle on her wedding day (She has no dad, and I'm closest thing she has to a brother). Why? Why couldn't I stop? I don't want to be talked out of this. I actually can't. If I stop now, I'm screwed. I have a third party waiting to see my obit in my papers, and if he doesn't for 3 weeks, he'll send a tape with my plan and intentions on it to my family, which would probably land me in the funny farm. What's worse is that I planned to do more. I don't know why. I planned for things in 2015 with a friend, why? I want to do this. I want to die. Life was a curse. I never asked for it. It's no gift. Humans are bastards, so what do I have to look forward to? I never wanted this life. And save your speeches on your prolific ways of living. You speak in vain whether you think you do or not. How will I die? I'll die of an overdose of opiates and sedatives. I usually take a sedative before I go to bed. My sedatives look pretty close to my Advil. I take morphine for chronic pain. 5mg MS. The pharmacy screwed up one time and gave me 100mg MS (Really, that was just ground work. I did it, so it would be easy to fool anyone who would think otherwise). They look basically the same, and in the dark, I wouldn't be able to tell except for the varying size and texture. I think I'll take a few of my pills which in the past have stopped me from vomiting up the pills, and it's the perfect mix to fake an accident. I leave nothing to chance. There's no survivors guilt, and they won't even have to find my body. My friend has survived worse, and I've planned for him to find me. When I found my cousin's body... it didn't phase me much, and he's basically the same, so there's no real issue here. If he doesn't, then I have backup plans.I tend to run off at the mouth. Just skip it all and let me know why I talked to her about it... more

Voting Question: Which hand/finger do you wear a promise ring on?

I am 22 and recieved a promise ring for Christmas (we have already exchanged gifts obviously) from my boyfriend as sort of an engagement ring or a 'promise' to get a real one when finances allow. We already live together and talk about marriage alot but want a big wedding so we are saving money. He didnt 'propose' when he gave me the ring, just said it was a promise that the real thing was coming soon. My brother (age 20) also got his girlfriend (who he has dated for several years and plans to marry) a promise ring for christmas. we (his and his gf and me and my bf) are very close and have several christmas family functions to attend together over the next few days and we are both curious traditionally which finger we are suppose to wear our rings on. Is it the ring finger on our right hand? or our left hand ring finger? Our families know we recieved the rings so we know they will be noticed and they are both very nice small diamond rings and we just dont want them to think we are wearing it on the wrong finger so we want to be sure. my father said right ring finger but my brother and boyfriend are both wanting us to wear the rings on our left ring finger. we dont want to give off the wrong impression and we dont want to insult what our boyfriends are trying to say either, so which way is right? more

Resolved Question: Should I invite my uncle to our wedding?

My Uncle and step-Aunt and I have not spoken since last October when they told my grandmother that she was not invited to thanksgiving dinner. Their reason was because my step-aunt's children (who are all over 25 years old) do not like my grandmother. My grandmother does not like them much either but she has been polite to them (for the most part) and buys them gifts every year, etc. for the past 20 years. I have never taken sides before, but I admit that my grandmother is difficult to get along with. I don't have a problem with not having that horrible, tension filled, phony thanksgiving with the whole family...BUT, when I called my cousin (my uncle's adult daughter) to ask if she was going, I found out that she knew nothing of the drama. Of course, I told her. She then confronted her Dad (my uncle) who then called me in a rage and told me to mind my own business and I don't know what I'm talking about, etc. I was truly crushed - I have always viewed my Uncle as a father figure and respected him even if I did not always agree with him...but the way he treated me that night was the last straw. Conversely, he also bullies his younger brother and my grandmother and mother think he is never at fault - it's all his evil wife. His wife is slightly unstable - she thinks everything is about her and is super sensitive, but I have no problem with her...but I have also avoided her at family events because how could I talk to her and not my uncle? I feel like a child acting this way, but my uncle is a bully and my aunt can not be trusted...they can not have normal discussions about things. My question is: should I invite them to my wedding? If I do and they don't come, I will be crushed. I'm sure my Uncle will reluctantly come just to play the victim. Every family gathering for the past year has been so stressful for me because of him. I don't know if I even WANT him at my wedding! But, as I said, my mom and grandma think he is flawless and would expect me to invite him. Please help! I am willing to consider anything, at this point.sorry I am babbling in this question. It's just because it really is causing me a lot of stress - I know it is confusing. I forgot how rude people can be on this site!HE is the one who started this by treating me like a piece of crap! I'm not going into detail because, believe it or not, I am trying to keep this simple. (haha). He seriously broke my heart and has never apologized even though I did. (He did not respond to my apology.) Just reflecting on the person that he is, I'm realizing he's not the man I thought he was when I was little. If he were not related to me, I would have no problem erasing him from my life. more

Resolved Question: Where can I convert a VHS tape to a cd or dvd?

I have a family VHS tape that is over 20 years old. I treasure this tape since the video is the only pictures I have of my family members. Five years ago I moved from Pennsylvania to Cleveland, Ohio where my then boyfriend lived to be closer to him. During the move the box that contained all my family photos were lost. I always kept carried the VHS tape with me during each move just for such a mishap as what happened 5 years ago. My Mom, Grandmother, Grandfather, Aunt and Uncle all have since passed away and it is a treasure to have this video. My wedding ceremony is also on a VHS tape given to me as a gift from a close family friend. I would like to be able to give the VHS tape of my family to my two sisters as a christmas present. Where can I go to have the video tape converted to a DVD or CD? I don't want to go to just anybody I want to go to someone who is professional and will care for the tape. Is there a way also of converting the tape to a digital form for photos? Thanks for your help. more

Resolved Question: Dilemma: Asked to be a bridesmaid?

I've been friends with this woman for over 20 years, although we've had a few rough patches in our friendship. She recently became engaged and asked me to be a bridesmaid. While I'm happy for her, I'm reminded of her actions during my own wedding weekend. Ours was a civil ceremony with plans to have a reception when circumstances allowed. She made the trip with my parents (didn't offer to pay any gas), got to the hotel and didn't have any money or a credit card, so I had to pay for her room. Someone else told us that she mooched breakfast from my parents the next morning as well. She never gave us a gift, or even a card, which really hurt. Aside from that, she still owes me a significant amount of money. I want to support her on her big day, but there is a part of me that is still angry, and not sure what to do. I don't know if I'm ready to be the bigger person and get them a gift, or tell her not to expect a gift, or what. What would you do? more

Resolved Question: What do you think I should do? (sorry, its a tad long :)?

I am putting this in engagements & weddings, because my wedding is at the root of this problem. I have (/had) a female friend. She's my age, and essentially we grew up together like sisters. I have known her for 20+ years. We get along really, really well. Now.... when we hit our teenage years, I started to work hard and saved up a lot of money. She was working half-heartedly, and moved in with her drug dealing boyfriend (who is 12 years her senior). So...when I hit 18 years old, I took off traveling around the world. I was gone for about 7 years, although I did come back to visit my family a few times (and each time, I drove to where she lives, which is 4 hours away from the nearest airport). As I had always continued to work and save, despite being overseas, I was always the one paying for EVERYTHING when we did spend time together, on the odd occasions I'd come into town. And, although overseas, I did call her. She never really called me. I didn't mind any of this though, because i had a greater income then she did, and she was struggling to get by, living in a trailer with her boyfriend. Fast forward to now. I got married in March of this year. The wedding was to be held an hour and a half away from her house. I offered her free transportation (return), i told her I didn't expect a wedding gift from her, totally NO-pay for her. I asked her to be my maid of honor. She initially said yes.... but i could tell she was hesitant. Then she backed out of that position.... saying she might not be able to make it due to work schedules. So then she went from that to "I will stay for the ceremony but I have to head home before the reception" (she had a 1 year old baby which she says is cholicky, but the baby was welcome to come too, and even her boyfriend who I don't like). Anyways so I said fine, I'll see you at the ceremony. Well, you guessed it. 2 DAYS before the ceremony, she asked me if I would be mad if she didn't come at all, because she had to work. She claimed she couldn't get out of it. I said I'd pay her equivalent wages for that day if she needed the money that badly. But no. No show, from her, and her mother (who claimed to be "sick"). I was so dissappointed. She called me when i was getting ready and I was so mad, I just couldn't talk to her because I was already nervewracked enough so I didn't answer. She kept texting me when I was on my honeymoon. I sent her a happy birthday text in Aug, but thats it. No communication since. MY QUESTION: Am I being unreasonable and ruining a great friendship over somethign like this, or am I doing the right thing and letting her go because by her actions, she wasn't that great a friend anyways? more

Resolved Question: What do you think I should do? (sorry a bit long!) Pls help. :)?

I am putting this in engagements & weddings, because my wedding is at the root of this problem. I have (/had) a female friend. She's my age, and essentially we grew up together like sisters. I have known her for 20+ years. We get along really, really well. Now.... when we hit our teenage years, I started to work hard and saved up a lot of money. She was working half-heartedly, and moved in with her drug dealing boyfriend (who is 12 years her senior). So...when I hit 18 years old, I took off traveling around the world. I was gone for about 7 years, although I did come back to visit my family a few times (and each time, I drove to where she lives, which is 4 hours away from the nearest airport). As I had always continued to work and save, despite being overseas, I was always the one paying for EVERYTHING when we did spend time together, on the odd occasions I'd come into town. And, although overseas, I did call her. She never really called me. I didn't mind any of this though, because i had a greater income then she did, and she was struggling to get by, living in a trailer with her boyfriend. Fast forward to now. I got married in March of this year. The wedding was to be held an hour and a half away from her house. I offered her free transportation (return), i told her I didn't expect a wedding gift from her, totally NO-pay for her. I asked her to be my maid of honor. She initially said yes.... but i could tell she was hesitant. Then she backed out of that position.... saying she might not be able to make it due to work schedules. So then she went from that to "I will stay for the ceremony but I have to head home before the reception" (she had a 1 year old baby which she says is cholicky, but the baby was welcome to come too, and even her boyfriend who I don't like). Anyways so I said fine, I'll see you at the ceremony. Well, you guessed it. 2 DAYS before the ceremony, she asked me if I would be mad if she didn't come at all, because she had to work. She claimed she couldn't get out of it. I said I'd pay her equivalent wages for that day if she needed the money that badly. But no. No show, from her, and her mother (who claimed to be "sick"). I was so dissappointed. She called me when i was getting ready and I was so mad, I just couldn't talk to her because I was already nervewracked enough so I didn't answer. She kept texting me when I was on my honeymoon. I sent her a happy birthday text in Aug, but thats it. No communication since. MY QUESTION: Am I being unreasonable and ruining a great friendship over somethign like this, or am I doing the right thing and letting her go because by her actions, she wasn't that great a friend anyways?I also have a friend who got screwed over by her best friend for her wedding too (she gave her friend 14 months to save for a plane ticket for her destination wedding. The friend cancelled her wedding due to 'finances' and went to cuba instead 2 weeks later) more

Resolved Question: extreme mom drama.. need help /advice please?

my mom has decided after 2 years of me and my boyfriend being together that she hates him. we all used to go out to dinner together and he came to all the family parties even bringing gifts for christmas and for mothers day, acting polite and courteous, hed even pay for the dinners. it was all good and fine, until about a month ago. me and my boyfriend "mike", have been together since i was 17, and he was 20 and i used to sleep over his apartment occasionally on the weekends. she had a big problem with that, (once she left a note under the door saying " she is MINE you cant keep her here!" )but we worked it out, they talked over the phone. once i turned 18 she still had a problem with it. she decided one tuesday last month to storm over at about 11:30 at night when i was writing a paper at my boyfriends cause i didnt have computer access at my house. i didnt even plan on staying over that night, i planned to walk home as he lives 15 minutes away. she rang all the bells to the apartment and finally got in. then she walked into the apartment without notice, woke all the tenants up with her loudness, and got my boyfriends landlord who lives next door involved. she was drunk and pulled the car into the walkway of the apartment too. she started screaming to him, "you say youre mr honor but you dont answer your phone" (she called twice but his phone was on silent and charging, i dont have a phone), with the landlord next to her, who was trying to calm her down, she screamed at him "youll realize one day when you have a teenage daughter" so my boyfriend, fed up with this behavior told her "you dont have a right to come into my house like this, you are a reasonable person, calm down." she said, "i have every right because my daugher is here", he told her "she is 18 and she can do or stay wherever you wants". she continued to insult him, but he kept his cool. after that experience, my mother and boyfriend have not gotten along. nothing changed- we stayed together, i still slept over his apartment. one morning i came home from his apartment, i slept over cause i had worked late the night before and i wanted to hang out with my bf for a bit. i was upset because i was going to a wedding that day with my boyfriend, and i couldnt find anyone to cover my shift at work, and i was afraid i was goin to get fired and had a small scuffel with one of my managers. my mother started going crazy, assuming i had a fight with my boyfriend and he was causing me these problems. i was very stressed to say the least and she pushed the problem, and she even accused me of being on drugs(ive never touched a drug in my life) . she later called my boyfriend, trying to "figure out what was wrong about me", apologizing for what hapened about the apartment the month ago, but he didnt want to hear it, still being upset about what happened. she then started going crazy and she revealed secrets i had told to her, that my boyfriend had once done cocaine (5 years ago) and she said she believed he was making me do drugs. she wanted to know where the wedding was, but he wouldnt tell her bc he was afraid shed drive over and make a scene in front of the wedding and "get me" like she did before. now, my bf is not a bad guy. we are actually "engaged" through promise rings. we want to marry each other. we love each other. i feel like my mother is finding reasons and delusions to make me not trust him. she accuses him of making me against her(not true, its her own behaviors i am upset about), being on drugs, cheating on me(not true, im with him 98%of the time, we go to school together, i pick him up from work, etc, i even have his facebook password), and she calls him "arabic ****" even though he is turkish and very european. she even googled him one day, saying "im sorry u had to learn this the hard way" and tried to show me that he had an "alter-ego" because he had a different name on his very veryy old unupdated myspace, which i had already seen. she tried to show me a couple of his youtube videos from new years eve about 3 years ago of him popping a bottle of champagne, which i had already seen, and he had shown me. she calls him pompopus because he has a facebook page and that my dad wouldnt post pictures like that that(even though my dad is 45 yrs old, and my bf is 21), and "if he is so hardworking why does he have a facebook page?". (he came from turkey 3 years ago,had to learn to adjust to the language and culture, he works 4 days a week, makes $3000 a month, has his own apt and goes to college 3 days a week, so in my opinion he is pretty hardworking) she constantly says "i do it bc i care about you, and i dont want u to make the same mistakes i did" but i feel as if she is protecting me when i dont need protection! we are very, very commited, spend 98% of our time together, and he has helped me through alot of hard situations and even pushe dme to do better in school and find a good job. before him, i was sleeping around with lots of differif youre not going to read this or offer any helpful input, or be immature and stupid, please refrain from posting and wasting my time , thanks!the last part got cut off. before my boyfriend when i was in high school i was sleeping around with lots of different guys, drinking and partying every night, and lying to my mom, but it was ok as long as i lied and said i was " sleeping over a friends house".. then my mother was no where to be found. now when i want to sleep over my bfs to watch a movie on a friday, she has a huge problem with that.. why is my mom acting like this? i always thought she was undiagnosed bipolar from the things shes done over the years(slipped a knife under my door and told me to slit my writs, threw pills at me told me to kill myself, kicked me out of the house in the dead of winter), ive never layed a hand on her.. plus she ignores my 15 yr old brothers smoking/drinking/ failing school problems and focuses everything on me.. when i suggested i move out she calls me a traitor! ive been with this guy for 2 years, im 18, what is wrong with me sleeping over, why cant i have a peaceful family life.. i goto school 4 days a week and work 3 days a week.. shouldnt i get a break more

Resolved Question: extreme mom drama.. need help/advice please.?

my mom has decided after 2 years of me and my boyfriend being together that she hates him. we all used to go out to dinner together and he came to all the family parties even bringing gifts for christmas and for mothers day, acting polite and courteous, hed even pay for the dinners. it was all good and fine, until about a month ago. me and my boyfriend "mike", have been together since i was 17, and he was 20 and i used to sleep over his apartment occasionally on the weekends. she had a big problem with that, (once she left a note under the door saying " she is MINE you cant keep her here!" )but we worked it out, they talked over the phone. once i turned 18 she still had a problem with it. she decided one tuesday last month to storm over at about 11:30 at night when i was writing a paper at my boyfriends cause i didnt have computer access at my house. i didnt even plan on staying over that night, i planned to walk home as he lives 15 minutes away. she rang all the bells to the apartment and finally got in. then she walked into the apartment without notice, woke all the tenants up with her loudness, and got my boyfriends landlord who lives next door involved. she was drunk and pulled the car into the walkway of the apartment too. she started screaming to him, "you say youre mr honor but you dont answer your phone" (she called twice but his phone was on silent and charging, i dont have a phone), with the landlord next to her, who was trying to calm her down, she screamed at him "youll realize one day when you have a teenage daughter" so my boyfriend, fed up with this behavior told her "you dont have a right to come into my house like this, you are a reasonable person, calm down." she said, "i have every right because my daugher is here", he told her "she is 18 and she can do or stay wherever you wants". she continued to insult him, but he kept his cool. after that experience, my mother and boyfriend have not gotten along. nothing changed- we stayed together, i still slept over his apartment. one morning i came home from his apartment, i slept over cause i had worked late the night before and i wanted to hang out with my bf for a bit. i was upset because i was going to a wedding that day with my boyfriend, and i couldnt find anyone to cover my shift at work, and i was afraid i was goin to get fired and had a small scuffel with one of my managers. my mother started going crazy, assuming i had a fight with my boyfriend and he was causing me these problems. i was very stressed to say the least and she pushed the problem, and she even accused me of being on drugs(ive never touched a drug in my life) . she later called my boyfriend, trying to "figure out what was wrong about me", apologizing for what hapened about the apartment the month ago, but he didnt want to hear it, still being upset about what happened. she then started going crazy and she revealed secrets i had told to her, that my boyfriend had once done cocaine (5 years ago) and she said she believed he was making me do drugs. she wanted to know where the wedding was, but he wouldnt tell her bc he was afraid shed drive over and make a scene in front of the wedding and "get me" like she did before. now, my bf is not a bad guy. we are actually "engaged" through promise rings. we want to marry each other. we love each other. i feel like my mother is finding reasons and delusions to make me not trust him. she accuses him of making me against her(not true, its her own behaviors i am upset about), being on drugs, cheating on me(not true, im with him 98%of the time, we go to school together, i pick him up from work, etc, i even have his facebook password), and she calls him "arabic fuck" even though he is turkish and very european. she even googled him one day, saying "im sorry u had to learn this the hard way" and tried to show me that he had an "alter-ego" because he had a different name on his very veryy old unupdated myspace, which i had already seen. she tried to show me a couple of his youtube videos from new years eve about 3 years ago of him popping a bottle of champagne, which i had already seen, and he had shown me. she calls him pompopus because he has a facebook page and that my dad wouldnt post pictures like that that(even though my dad is 45 yrs old, and my bf is 21), and "if he is so hardworking why does he have a facebook page?". (he came from turkey 3 years ago,had to learn to adjust to the language and culture, he works 4 days a week, makes $3000 a month, has his own apt and goes to college 3 days a week, so in my opinion he is pretty hardworking) she constantly says "i do it bc i care about you, and i dont want u to make the same mistakes i did" but i feel as if she is protecting me when i dont need protection! we are very, very commited, spend 98% of our time together, and he has helped me through alot of hard situations and even pushe dme to do better in school and find a good job. before him, i was sleeping around with lots of differto the first three answers i extend a very big fuck you! =) more

Voting Question: Should my girlfriend return the wedding gifts?

My brother and his fiance (They're only 20 years old by the way) are getting married in December unfortunately. I believe he could pick a way better woman. Pretty much nobody in my family likes them as a couple except my mom. If I had my choice, I wouldn't go to the wedding but unfortunately my mom is forcing me too, and I want my girlfriend to be with me at the event. Since I'm unemployed at the moment and can't afford a wedding gift for them, also because I do not support their marriage, and because they have been giving me and my girlfriend a lot of drama, I am not and do not want to give them a wedding gift. My girlfriend of 5 months, even after all the drama they've given us, still decided to buy them a wedding gift in hopes that our relationship between the couple would get better. The other day, my brother accused my girlfriend of trying to change me and of taking money from our mom which of course is not true. I am truly pissed that he would say that about my girlfriend, and so is she. She now feels she should return the wedding gifts and either get them just a card, or something way cheaper (she paid $60). My girlfriend sees them all the time when she comes to my house but doesn't really Know them if you know what I mean, so would it even have been appropriate that she get them a wedding gift, and do you think she should return the wedding gift after what my brother said?to 11/25/04: It's not my problem we don't get along, my brother and her fiance are the one's always trying to start drama. Nobody in my family likes them together. My brother has never been the same since he's been dating her, he's become a worse person. I try to mind my own business, and they always have to start something. Until THEY start leaving people alone, THEN we will get along. more

Resolved Question: Do I have to buy her a gift?

Hi there! I have an etiquette question for you all. My boyfriend's cousin invited me to a bridal shower for her sister who is coming in from out of town. Due to other prior commitments I won't be attending the actual 'all women' shower, but will attend a dinner later on that includes the men. Thing is, times are very tough for me financially right now and I feel that since I have not met the couple and don't even know if I'm invited to the wedding, I should not have to purchase a gift. If I am invited to the wedding, I won't go simply because I can't afford the airfare to the wedding location. I don't want to create tension within my new family by seeming stingy, but I also don't think its fair to be expected to buy a present for someone I don't even know and won't see again, probably, until my own wedding several years from now. My mom suggested something for $20, but even that will be tough on me. If I absolutely have to get a gift, then I will, but I would like to know if it is acceptable not to do so. I appreciate your advice! more

Resolved Question: The ex wife is screwing with me....?

Please somebody... Im gonna post this same question one more time... I need to know what to even think. I really need some advice... Thanks for reading this... I know its long, but it'll really help to have some help. Thanks everyone! I have a boyfriend, whom I love with all of my heart and will do anything for him. We have a son together who is a year and a half old and who is the most georgous little boy in the world. I am so happy with him and my son... alone. But theres always a bad part of the fairy tale... The Ex Wife. They were together for about 11 years, I have been with him for 4 and a half. They were engaged to be married after the 1st year, he purposed to her on Valentines day. Every year on that day, Its hard to enjoy it... but I don't let it get to me, at least not in front of him or anybody else. They have a son together, he is 8 years old. He used to be soo in love with me. It was actually the cutest thing! Now, he dispises me! The only thing me and my boyfriend can think of is she has put it into his head not to like me. One reason that I think that... I was dropping him off at his moms house one day and he always gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek as I did him as well (I felt like a mom to him). Well, about 6 months ago, I was dropping him off as I do every weekend because she is to drunk to come and get him... he told me that he could not hug and kiss me like usuall because his mom would probably get mad. So this led me to believe that something was up... obviously! I never took anybodys crap before her... I just thought it would be best not to get into the baby mama drama with my boyfriends ex wife. Now I am only 20 years old, he is 36. I know that sounds and looks bad but its not like that at all. It was defientally love at first sight. Our familys love eachother. Everythings great... besides her. Latley, she has been calling and starting some kind of trouble rather than to call and talk about their son. She has accused me of beating her son because "he tells her that I do". I dont know weather or not to believe that, she could be making that up, but it also could be what he is actually saying. I am just so confused. She wears and flashes the wedding ring that my boyfriend gave her in front of me. He husband now does not know where the ring came from.... I only know this because he cannot stand my boyfriend which I believe is only natural, since he is the ex husband and all... and if he knew where that ring came from, they probably wouldnt be together anymore and im not even kidding. But I would never try and break somebody up by telling him where that ring came from, or who bought the car that she drives, or the bed that she sleeps in... the same bed she made a baby in with my boyfriend... anyways... im getting off track. Point is, I would never put somebody else in a position like the position that she is putting me in. She is trying to split us up. I am literally crying right now just typing this because I have always gotten along with her and I LOVE my boyfriend with all of my heart. He gave me the best gift in the world and that is my precious son. But I just dont know what to do about her. She has called the law several times on me, just accusing me of different silly things. Childish things. "I went into her house and stole her wallet with $2000 cash in it while she was taking a shower" (never been in that house! "I beat her sons (she has 4 all by different men) while she walks outside for a smoke... I go in through the back door while she walks out the front"... I just want somebodies advice on what I should do. She calls my cell phone calling me a "little girl" and telling me that I need to "grow up".... so one day I answered the phone and said "look you F**king immature old a*s lady.... grow up and stop stalking me and trying to reuin my life... its not gonna happen, leave me alone!" (She is only 33... she is not old by any means) I was just so sick of her Bullsh*t! I still am...I dont know how to fix this... My boyfriend has spoken to her several times... the law has told her to leave me alone, told me that its best to put a restraining order agnist her, but I love her son, even though these days... it seems as if he doesnt love me... and I do believe that it is something she is saying/doing to him so that he will not like me anymore. I know that she will be around for at least another 10 years since their son is only 8, I know there will always be some kind of awkardness since they were married before, and I know that I am not the mother of their son that they have together. I try and dicipline him, yet he does not listen anymore. He is taking after his two older brothers who have been in and out of juvy. He is only 8... please someone.... help me out. more

Resolved Question: Can anyone help me out please?

I have listed this question already.... Some of you are extremely nice and have give me some Great Advice! But others... you other people are just so harsh on my sisuation. I just want to say before I say what the post is actually for that if you cannot help me out... please Don't respond to this post. Thanks. As for you helpers out there... I have put a question on here 5 days ago and like... 5 hours ago. I have a boyfriend, whom I love with all of my heart and will do anything for him. We have a son together who is a year and a half old and who is the most georgous little boy in the world. I am so happy with him and my son... alone. But theres always a bad part of the fairy tale... The Ex Wife. They were together for about 11 years, I have been with him for 4 and a half. They were engaged to be married after the 1st year, he purposed to her on Valentines day. Every year on that day, Its hard to enjoy it... but I don't let it get to me, at least not in front of him or anybody else. They have a son together, he is 8 years old. He used to be soo in love with me. It was actually the cutest thing! Now, he dispises me! The only thing me and my boyfriend can think of is she has put it into his head not to like me. One reason that I think that... I was dropping him off at his moms house one day and he always gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek as I did him as well (I felt like a mom to him). Well, about 6 months ago, I was dropping him off as I do every weekend because she is to drunk to come and get him... he told me that he could not hug and kiss me like usuall because his mom would probably get mad. So this led me to believe that something was up... obviously! I never took anybodys crap before her... I just thought it would be best not to get into the baby mama drama with my boyfriends ex wife. Now I am only 20 years old, he is 36. I know that sounds and looks bad but its not like that at all. It was defientally love at first sight. Our familys love eachother. Everythings great... besides her. Latley, she has been calling and starting some kind of trouble rather than to call and talk about their son. She has accused me of beating her son because "he tells her that I do". I dont know weather or not to believe that, she could be making that up, but it also could be what he is actually saying. I am just so confused. She wears and flashes the wedding ring that my boyfriend gave her in front of me. He husband now does not know where the ring came from.... I only know this because he cannot stand my boyfriend which I believe is only natural, since he is the ex husband and all... and if he knew where that ring came from, they probably wouldnt be together anymore and im not even kidding. But I would never try and break somebody up by telling him where that ring came from, or who bought the car that she drives, or the bed that she sleeps in... the same bed she made a baby in with my boyfriend... anyways... im getting off track. Point is, I would never put somebody else in a position like the position that she is putting me in. She is trying to split us up. I am literally crying right now just typing this because I have always gotten along with her and I LOVE my boyfriend with all of my heart. He gave me the best gift in the world and that is my precious son. But I just dont know what to do about her. She has called the law several times on me, just accusing me of different silly things. Childish things. "I went into her house and stole her wallet with $2000 cash in it while she was taking a shower" (never been in that house! "I beat her sons (she has 4 all by different men) while she walks outside for a smoke... I go in through the back door while she walks out the front"... I just want somebodies advice on what I should do. She calls my cell phone calling me a "little girl" and telling me that I need to "grow up".... so one day I answered the phone and said "look you F**king immature old a*s lady.... grow up and stop stalking me and trying to reuin my life... its not gonna happen, leave me alone!" (She is only 33... she is not old by any means) I was just so sick of her Bullsh*t! I still am...I dont know how to fix this... My boyfriend has spoken to her several times... the law has told her to leave me alone, told me that its best to put a restraining order agnist her, but I love her son, even though these days... it seems as if he doesnt love me... and I do believe that it is something she is saying/doing to him so that he will not like me anymore. I know that she will be around for at least another 10 years since their son is only 8, I know there will always be some kind of awkardness since they were married before, and I know that I am not the mother of their son that they have together. I try and dicipline him, yet he does not listen anymore. He is taking after his two older brothers who have been in and out of juvy. He is only 8... please someone.... help me out. more

Resolved Question: Can somebody please help me with this situation...?

I have put two other questions on here regarding the same issue. Some of you are extremely nice and have give me some Great Advice! But others... you other people are just so harsh on my sisuation. I just want to say before I say what the post is actually for that if you cannot help me out... please do not respond to this post. Thanks. As for you helpers out there... I have put a question on here 5 days ago and like... 5 hours ago. I have a boyfriend, whom I love with all of my heart and will do anything for him. We have a son together who is a year and a half old and who is the most georgous little boy in the world. I am so happy with him and my son... alone. But theres always a bad part of the fairy tale... The Ex Wife. They were together for about 11 years, I have been with him for 4 and a half. They were engaged to be married after the 1st year, he purposed to her on Valentines day. Every year on that day, Its hard to enjoy it... but I don't let it get to me, at least not in front of him or anybody else. They have a son together, he is 8 years old. He used to be soo in love with me. It was actually the cutest thing! Now, he dispises me! The only thing me and my boyfriend can think of is she has put it into his head not to like me. One reason that I think that... I was dropping him off at his moms house one day and he always gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek as I did him as well (I felt like a mom to him). Well, about 6 months ago, I was dropping him off as I do every weekend because she is to drunk to come and get him... he told me that he could not hug and kiss me like usuall because his mom would probably get mad. So this led me to believe that something was up... obviously! I never took anybodys crap before her... I just thought it would be best not to get into the baby mama drama with my boyfriends ex wife. Now I am only 20 years old, he is 36. I know that sounds and looks bad but its not like that at all. It was defientally love at first sight. Our familys love eachother. Everythings great... besides her. Latley, she has been calling and starting some kind of trouble rather than to call and talk about their son. She has accused me of beating her son because "he tells her that I do". I dont know weather or not to believe that, she could be making that up, but it also could be what he is actually saying. I am just so confused. She wears and flashes the wedding ring that my boyfriend gave her in front of me. He husband now does not know where the ring came from.... I only know this because he cannot stand my boyfriend which I believe is only natural, since he is the ex husband and all... and if he knew where that ring came from, they probably wouldnt be together anymore and im not even kidding. But I would never try and break somebody up by telling him where that ring came from, or who bought the car that she drives, or the bed that she sleeps in... the same bed she made a baby in with my boyfriend... anyways... im getting off track. Point is, I would never put somebody else in a position like the position that she is putting me in. She is trying to split us up. I am literally crying right now just typing this because I have always gotten along with her and I LOVE my boyfriend with all of my heart. He gave me the best gift in the world and that is my precious son. But I just dont know what to do about her. She has called the law several times on me, just accusing me of different silly things. Childish things. "I went into her house and stole her wallet with $2000 cash in it while she was taking a shower" (never been in that house! "I beat her sons (she has 4 all by different men) while she walks outside for a smoke... I go in through the back door while she walks out the front"... I just want somebodies advice on what I should do. She calls my cell phone calling me a "little girl" and telling me that I need to "grow up".... so one day I answered the phone and said "look you F**king immature old a*s lady.... grow up and stop stalking me and trying to reuin my life... its not gonna happen, leave me alone!" (She is only 33... she is not old by any means) I was just so sick of her Bullsh*t! I still am...I dont know how to fix this... My boyfriend has spoken to her several times... the law has told her to leave me alone, told me that its best to put a restraining order agnist her, but I love her son, even though these days... it seems as if he doesnt love me... and I do believe that it is something she is saying/doing to him so that he will not like me anymore. I know that she will be around for at least another 10 years since their son is only 8, I know there will always be some kind of awkardness since they were married before, and I know that I am not the mother of their son that they have together. I try and dicipline him, yet he does not listen anymore. He is taking after his two older brothers who have been in and out of juvy. He is only 8... please someone.... I nee more

Resolved Question: Do I need to get a wedding gift?

I hate my brother's fiance. She's not too fond of me either. I am required by my parents to attend their wedding. I am 20 years old and attending college so I don't have any spending money. I don't even have enough to go to the movies. Do I need to get them a wedding gift? Everything is so expensive! Also, what do I say to them on the wedding day? I don't want to say congrats... Any help would be greatly appreciated!!! Thanks!I'm not being a brat. You don't know the full story. But thanks for assuming. I actually would expect less from them. FYI just because you marry someone, doesn't mean you love them. more

Resolved Question: How's this for a wedding/bridal shower gift?

Ok, so I decided to not buy anything on the registry, because everything is too rich for my blood. Both my husband and I are blue collar workers. So, I decided on a cookbook or two with some cheap, handy little cooking utensils. My spending budget is about $20 or less. How does that sound? I never used a registry myself, and didn't expect gifts. I got some, and of the things I got that were duplicate, they were like towels, bowls, etc. All stuff I'm still using after 7 years. All were Dollar General type stuff, because I knew the families couldn't afford much, so I know they weren't fancy.And yes I hate registries. Seems like hardly anyone thinks of the fact that many people aren't loaded. more

Resolved Question: I hate gift registries!?

Ok, my question is...Is it impolite, bad etiquette, whatever to purchase things not on the registry? Here's my dilemma. Most everything on there is too rich for my blood, and I don't even buy them for myself. Like 1 towel(not one set) is like $15. And they want 2 towels. I can buy plenty of towels for dirt cheap at other places. Or I can buy them dirt cheap at Target, but they don't want the cheap ones. For my wedding, we got cheapie stuff(and I didn't do a registry), and we still use them after 7 years, so I know full well that the cheap stuff can last for years. I have also bought somewhat expensive stuff..when I could afford them..to have them shrivel away to nothing. And that's about the cheapest. Everything else they want is about $40 on up, for one piddly item. They even had $100-$250 gifts selected. So, if I buy a ton of dollar store items that can be used for years(I know, because I use them), for $10 or $20, is that rude? We are blue collar workers, so money isn't exactly on our side. BTW, this is for a Bridal Shower on Thurs. I found out yesterday about it.The expensive stuff, like anything more than $20 that I wanted or needed, I just bought myself.Personally, I think registries are just plain rude after my experiences trying to buy wedding gifts off of them. You want a $50 vacuum cleaner? Buy it yourself. Don't expect people who are blue collar workers to be able to afford it, especially when they pretty much just buy used stuff for themselves.But back to my question..is it rude for me to get a bunch of cheap stuff I know that will last for years for $20 instead of what's on the registry? A gift card is a good idea.Edit: Their wedding is free. And we likely won't attend the wedding, as I likely won't be able to take that weekend off work. This is for a bridal shower. As for what they spend on me to attend the wedding, if they want to spend a fortune on me, fine, but they really shouldn't expect blue collar workers to be able to afford the high priced things that they can't afford for themselves(the blue collar workers).I should have said a $100 vacuum cleaner.Well, $50 is expensive to a lot of people, especially with layoffs and such.But I spent $50 on a refurbished Wind Tunnel vacuum for us.The cheap towels is just an example. I would do cheap kitchenware and so on.I thought about kitchen gadgets and a cookbook. more

Resolved Question: After wedding shocker from grudge holding "Best Friend"?

My best friend of almost 20 years and I are now grown women, we are in our late thirties. When we were in our early twenties, I got mad at her and very immaturely, I stopped talking to her after sending her a note telling her why I was mad. This was 15 years ago, and in all honestly, I don't even remember the circumstances. It was foolish. She never contacted me either, so we remained not talking for about five years, and during this time she got married. Our friendship rekindled through a high school reunion website, we have been talking now for ten years. Neither one of us ever formally apologized to each other; things slowly went back to the way they were, as adults and best friends again. I have seen her give birth to her two children and I have always been very generous to them at holidays, because I want to be. She has been bringing up more and more often, over the past year, how I stopped talking to her. She takes no responsibility for our immature fallout from years ago. Fast forward- I just got married, and SHE asked ME to be in the wedding- of course I was thrilled. Since I missed her wedding, I paid for everything for her, except for the $100 dress with no alterations. I even paid for her hair to get done at a fancy salon with me. This is a girl who is doing very well financially, along with her husband. Weddings are NOT about gifts, my husband and I are NOT that way- but we were both shocked and hurt when we saw what she gave us. My husband thinks it was a deliberate slap in the face for missing her wedding. I tend to agree. She admitted that at my reception she was getting drunk, and told one of my friends how I stopped talking to her years ago. WTF?? Besides for being tired of her bringing up over and over that I stopped talking to her years ago, this incident with a really stingy gift just has me really turned off. I would never, ever bring anything up about it, but I just feel like I will never win with this girl. How would you feel? more

Resolved Question: (Adults) Is this love to you?

To start off, i'm 15 and i'll be 16 in a week. I have been with me boyfriend for a year now and we love each more than anything in the world. We plan on marrying each other when we're in our 20's. my boyfriend has been one of my best friends since the 5th grade. He's always had this BIG crush on me but I didnt know it. When we first hooked up, he told me about how he had so many heartbreaks and how girls used to use him but he didnt care about them anyway. These things showed him that he didnt know how to love. All of that has change now. He makes sure that he tells me that he loves me everyday by all means. He loves me because I wont take from him. I wont even accept gifts from him. (Unless its my bday or xmas) We can talk to each other about anything, even things that people just shouldnt discuss with people no matter how close they are. I love his family to death and they love me too. I call his mother my mother and she calls me her daughter. I love his father, brothers, and sisiters and they love me too. Same with my family and him. He was even in my mother and father's wedding. And during the reception, my father told him that he was a part of the family. One day I was watching The Tyra Show and some girl wanted to sell her virginity. I kidded with my boyfriend, asking him if I should too. He said no. I said, " What if the president wanted it?" He said he'd fight the president. I said, " what if God wanted it?" He said that he would fight God too. He said that a thing like that is special and you should share it with someone special too. I would continue,but i'd be typing 4ever. So is this love to u. or as a lot of adults say. Is it all in our heads? more

Resolved Question: Fight with TWO friends because of my wedding...?

Should I just let it go? I have actually considered them my good friends for years, although at least one of them I have been told by numerous people who know her that she is not my true friend... 1st one, I picked as my matron of honor. She & her husband know my husband very well...We are ALL friends and spent just about every Friday together for almost the last year, but we've known each other years...My boyfriend and I had lived together for 10yrs and have an 8yr old son...Once we told them we were getting married...Everytime I saw her alone she questioned if I truly thought we should get married...WTH? And everytime all 4 of us were together she just talked about how we were happy now but wouldn't be in 10yrs because marriage is crap...After 3 weeks of this, I was worn out...I didn't tell my fiancee until two weeks before the wedding that she had constantly questioned me about getting married until HE got sick of hearing her negativity...then I broke down and told him and he was very angry...We actually didn't need witnesses or bestman/matron of honor after all (we didn't know) as we got married by an officiant and there is no place for witnesses to sign a wedding certificate...My fiancee very nicely told them we were sorry but would not need them...Not in those exact words, he was nice about it... Fast forward after the wedding and she was the only one who took a video of my wedding (it was a very simple wedding)...she has shown everyone the video of my wedding, including my parents, brother-in-law, etc...but everytime I ask to see it she has some excuse...when I asked her for a copy, she has made numerous excuses...even my mother is starting to say that she is acting weird about it...even her husband told me and my husband, "hey, come over and pick up the DVD from the wedding..." and she makes up excuses why she hasn't made a copy or given it to me... Now the 2nd knew about all this stress I was going through...and to top it off, my sister and husband announced a divorce after 20yrs of marriage just 2 weeks before my wedding...my parents were a wreck, we were all a wreck...and 2 days before my wedding my husband was told he would have to move out of the country for a new job within a month of the wedding... This friend OFFERED to make boutonieres and a wedding bouquet...I picked the cheapest flowers so she wouldn't spend alot (I also said no gifts for my wedding...she claimed this was my gift...she sent me pics and I told her perfect! Then she changed the flowers and when I told her they were too big (HUGE gerbera daisies) while I wore a short (mini) 27USD dress...she got ticked off at me and a week before the wedding said "make them yourself..." She then told me that her husband "might not go to the wedding or her son", she knew I had limited room - only 50people fit in the tiny restaurant...she knew there were good friends I did not invite because of space...and got ticked off at me when I asked her if they would be there for lunch or not because I needed to give a count to the restaurant...3days before the wedding!!! Now she's mad at me for posting a pic of someone I originally did not invite, whom I care very much about, but invited because she told her about the wedding and I didn't want to make her look bad...again, this is a good friend of 20+ yrs that I had not invited, just as others because there just wasn't enough room but for family and very few friends... She has told me off for writing "a very special friend" on a picture I posted on my site of my friend and I...even though I told everyone I had over 500 pics that I still was posting daily...and then told me that it was obvious I wanted everything "my way..." WTH? Oh my, I feel so bad...but what is the problem? I honestly am amazed at the reaction of both of these so called friends...I was nice to both...no gifts, wear whatever you want, I won't be picky, had a very simple wedding and I just don't know if I should even try to make amends...I tried to talk to the one about the flowers and she just told me off, even though I told her I valued her friendship, appreciated everything she had done, that I didn't want to bother her with too many requests, or supervise her as I trusted what she would do, etc... Sorry, I am just at a loss...Amazingly enough, my sister going through a divorce, my brother-in-law who didn't want the divorce, even two friends who had not talked to each other in years all went and were gracious, courteous and super great to be around... more

Resolved Question: Wedding in December and have 2 weeks to plan?

My bf and I are getting married in December, we jst got engaged last week on a small ceremony with our family member. Our parents are coming this weekend and they are only here for 2 weeks to discuss about our wedding as our parents are paying for it. My father just bought a Cabin on the mountain for our wedding gift. How long does it take to make a wedding plan with 20 invitees from both side??my 1 year old son will be a page boy with my cousin assisting him walking by the aisle, that is the only plan we have but not the rest.. Please advice. more

Voting Question: I thought we were tight...?

My friend and i have been close since we were three. 20 years later, we still call each other about any major life events. I even named my daughter after her. she recently got married. I flew into town to be there. She said hi to me briefly and then moved on to other people. So I introduced myself to her husband, and he said he has never heard of me! I was surprised because I knew all about him. and also, I painted her a picture as a special wedding gift...it's been months since then and I haven't heard from her since...she's never even acknowledged my special gift. She's meant so much to me over the years...does this mean I never meant as much to her? more

Resolved Question: I would love to have a baby!!!?

Hello, My name is Bobbi Jo. I am 20, and my fiance is 21. We have been together for 1 1/12 year, moved things pretty quick and have lived together for 7 months. We love each other dearly. We have had our ups and downs getting adjusted to "US" instead of (all about me) as a single person. We both are, I wouldn't say very mature because no we are not perfect and have not learned everything as if we were 40, but we are more mature than most our age. We both have a good head on our shoulders, in school. Me- bachelors in business, him- bachelors in It specialist. Together we have made a great team. Now we are looking forward to getting married, not yet only because we both want to lose weight and plan the BEST wedding ever. but we want to start a family young and want to try now. I LOVE babies and kids. I have raised my 3 yr. old brother since birth. NO it was not easy at all. up all night feeding them. the crying when your tired is tough. when they are sick you get no rest. they cost a lot of money, but through the tough times and frustrations I find it a joy to have a beautiful miracle. Babies are the best gift ever given and I love watching them grow, getting to see a human you made do its first everything, first coo, first word, birthday, step, all that. I love it! I know all these things since I have done it. It made me want my own really bad, especially since I am out on my own and now that I do not live with my mom and brother. I am starting to crave having a child, honestly I think a lot of has to do with raising my brother and then now an hour away from him. I am ready and want to start my own family. We both have great jobs also. I work for the board of education and he works at home depot. both great jobs with great benefits, and that is just till we are out of school. what should I do?I do want to lose weight before pregnancy. I am already losing weight for wedding. I am ready, I just want to know more. I want to start taking vitamins and getting my body baby ready, I need advice on them things. I do not want to get married while pregnant. It will be a while before the wedding because we are still planning and he wants to lose all his weight first. I have done a lot of traveling growing up and my dad lives in florida my cousin lives in jamacia family in california and everywhere so I am burnt out on traveling. I do have a hobby. I like to paint, and I help people design houses. I have babysit and took care of kids since 10 and 7 yr. old cousin who live with my grandparents right beside my mom who I helped a lot in taking care of cause my uncle their father was killed in a car accident. Every summer I babysit all my cousins and take them places fun. It is just in my blood to care for people and animals. I also volunteer at my local hospital and vets office....I know a whole lot about preparing your body and taking care of babies. I have done so much research for months, I guess I keep asking cause I'm nervous in a sense. I want to be the best mommy, that is why I am asking for advice and still researching. I will probably still research during pregnancy and after. I just always worry so much about doing my best in life. Like with school I worry so much I won't make it even though I make straight A's and I am a very nice person, I just nervous about being a mommy too. I have an anxiety disorder ocd is why I worry so much and ask so many questions... more

Resolved Question: Wedding reception problem need help/advice asap!?

Im getting married on october 24th this year. Its been a rather fast to happen wedding because my fiance is leaving for the military soon. My mom and i rarely get along well but she has been dead set to help us with things even though she doesnt have the money. So i said alright you let me know what you can do and we'll work this out. She said well i can do the reception hall rental now i was thinking this was alot but she said she wanted to and that shed look for places. So she calls me one day and says well we could use the hall at The Eagles Lounge because she is a member and could get it cheaper she told me capacity was 200 blah blah. I said alright thats fine my invites went out and everything and ive been needed a table count to get my decorations and stuff but i cant get in during operating hours because its mainly a bar and im only 20 and no one can ever meet me after hours to let me in. Well she finally gets me the count and says theres 15 tables there ALL TOGETHER meaning my cake table gift table bridal party table and each table will seat 8 people. So even if they were only guest tables they would only seat 120 people in the room and she says theres no room for anything else to be brought in like my dj and such. Im so devestated i dont know what to do now has anyone had to change their reception location last minute? if so what did you do?? more

Resolved Question: where can i buy a not expensive promise ring? or any special gift for a girl?

im only 17 but i found a really good girl thats 16. its about a year and half age difference. we really truly are in love. and we never argue. its in a sense a perfect couple and wed both like it to last forever or as long as we last. so idk maybe in the next year or so i wanted to get her some kind of gift something special she can wear or at least keep around. but im not some baller with 1k bills in my wallet i have like 20 dollars my mom gives me off and on about every week. more

Resolved Question: What would be a good question for a wedding time capsule survey?

'm putting together a wedding time capsule as a gift for my sister who is getting married. I'm including mementos of the wedding and also little notes and a survey from people in the wedding party, close friends, and family. So 20 years into the marriage, what would be some things we could predict? How many kids they'll have, where they'll live, etc... Any other suggestions welcome more

Resolved Question: What would be some good questions for a wedding time capsule survey?

I'm putting together a wedding time capsule as a gift for my sister who is getting married. I'm including mementos of the wedding and also little notes and a survey from people in the wedding party, close friends, and family. So 20 years into the marriage, what would be some things we could predict? How many kids they'll have, where they'll live, etc... Any other suggestions welcome more

Resolved Question: Can I still write my thank yous from last year?

I got a wedding shower from coworkers last october right before my wedding, they all gifted me with some cash. We moved in November and I just now found the card they gave me with all their names in it. There are about 20 names, that is why I didn't write them before, becuase I didn't know who did and did not gift me with some cash. I have been looking for this for months! I feel so bad that they are so late, is it too late? Can I still write them? How should I write it to explain my lateness? more

Resolved Question: How much money should I give as a wedding present- Please Help!?

My co-workers daughter is getting married this next weekend and I am attending her wedding. I am 20 years old, work 2 jobs, am a full time student and I am currently building a house... and money is kind of tight. The bride and groom asked for monetary gifts only and I feel this kind of put me in a hard spot. I dont want to give so much that i place my self in a tight financial situation, but I dont want to give too little to insult anyone or seem ungrateful. I heard that you should pay no less then what was paid for you to attend the wedding and reception. In this case however the families decided that they would have a BBQ and pot-luck style dinner for the reception. I really would like some advice on what I should give, I really want to help make this day special for them and make a contribution, but I dont want to break the bank either. Thank you for any help or advice you can offer! more

Resolved Question: so many gifts...what to do, what to do?

i have so many weddings coming up (including my own) and i'm not rolling in dough here so what should i do? my cousin is getting married 9/19/09 her shower is this weekend & bachelorette party 9/12 & 13 a friend of mine (for about 20 years) is getting married 10/24/09 shower 8/16 - we haven't been that close in the last few years but we still talk 'cause i see her at her job all the time but we don't hang out much one of my best friends (and bridesmaids) is having a baby shower 9/13 (i'm going to be late 'cause i'll be coming back from the cousin's bachelorette party) so is it ok to spend like $20 or less on the 2 bridal showers? since i'll be getting gifts for $80 and $100 or so for there weddings (enough to cover the plates like we're supposed to) then like $60 or so on the baby shower? is that enough? and do i have to get something for the bachelorette party since we're going out of state to the jersey shore for the day/night & i'm driving & we're getting hotel rooms, going out for dinner/drinks that night i'm only working part time and trying to save for my own wedding so i don't want to over do anything, but i don't want to cheap out on themthe covering the cost of the plate is common etiquette, a general standard that's been that way for a long time, of course when those than can't afford it don't it's not a big deal, but that's the general standard more

Resolved Question: I am having trouble with cross cultural inherited "in laws", any advice?

The GENUINE in laws are delightful, but there is a third party who will not back off. Please bare with me, i am probably going to paint this as an angel vs the devil. This is the story as i view it although naturally bias towards myself, i will try to be as just and factual as possible. I am male my partner is female, both in mid-late 20’s. I am from a western society my fiancé is from a conservative central asian nation. I try to live a simple but disciplined life, and my partner is very contemporary for her origins [we work very well together] My partner left her parents and moved to my Australia for educational and employment benefits. Once arrived she moved into a share house with her male cousin**(30) and his wife (27). As i believe things were happy until she met me. Where i use my own personal ethics to guide me, he is very concerned with rules and regulations. For example i avoid meat for ethical reasons, he cant understand this. He avoids premarital sex for ‘religious’ reasons, i cant understand this. He believes a man demands respect, i believe respect can only be earned. The more time my partner and i would spend together the more house rules he would create. In the beginning she would always agree, until i reminded her in this country someone nearing 30 is free to do whatever. (NB: i understand that i could have a great influence over her judgement, so i would allow her to decide what she wanted) When she started to break house rules, he would verbally attack his wife and my partner. Followed by very emotive and vague correspondence with her aging parents (my future inlaws). Her distressed parents would always contact her, and tell her not to cause trouble (as a sign of respect she would NEVER tell them the facts, nor would she disobey, even after identifying his manipulations) In his presence the wife would always back him up, but comfort my partner and agree is a controlling misogynist. Rules started with a midnight curfew, but soon became petty and fluid to his convenience. One evening my partner was working late in a particularly violent area, and it was also raining, having no car herself, i collected her and dropped home, this caused great distress because she had seen me the night before. I was not allowed to remain late in front of his kids [which i can understand] but when they holidayed interstate they would phone her to ensure that i had left on time; im not sure how this effected his kids being 2000km away. Upon them understanding i was still at the SHARE house, they flew home immediately. When i would make plans of an evening they would repeatedly make fixed plans including my partner over the top of mine. More often than not their plans would fail to eventuate, so the couple would go to the cinema and leave my partner babysitting their children. Often she was told it is unfair on them if she has a greater social life than them. When her auntie visited my partner was forbidden to socialise and attend the wedding as it would require hers spending the entire night with her auntie. Not being the petty type she has taken responsibility for the offence caused. Now she is working abroad and i have had a couple of personal attacks from this gent, regarding my inferiority to him and my inappropriate behaviour. By this countries standards i am very conservative and disciplined myself. He has accused me of having an affair with his wife, and suggested i stay away. I had visited on celebrations to give gifts to the kids. This was all in his presence, but mind you slipped an affair in at these times. Being all that i am, i can still be asked for a monetary loan. After suggesting i stay away he announces to her family that i am shunning them. I don’t know what to do. My partners sentiments are similar to mine, but she fears standing up to him. We are planning on purchasing a house soon, and marrying next year or beyond. This, he has already disallowed, and we both believe he will manipulate her parents’ understanding of the situation. As far as we feel, he has pushed himself beyond his boundaries (possibly because he was allowed). But as a older male (by 2 years) she automatically feels he is wise enough to be obeyed. She does obey. Should i make a stand to him? this will most likely cause her parents to disapprove of me Should we both ignore him? This will cause great shame to her parents and their family Should i expect her to make a stand? I don’t know how that would unravel I just don’t know, please help **in their terms they refer to each other as brother/sister, although no family links. I used the term cousin as this is how i would consider the level of closeness. more

Resolved Question: Can i have some advice with a cross cultural relationship please?

Please bare with me, i am probably going to paint this as an angel vs the devil. This is the story as i view it although naturally bias towards myself, i will try to be as just and factual as possible. I am male my partner is female, both in mid-late 20’s. I am from a western society my fiancé is from a conservative central asian nation. I try to live a simple but disciplined life, and my partner is very contemporary for her origins [we work very well together] My partner left her parents and moved to my Australia for educational and employment benefits. Once arrived she moved into a share house with her male cousin**(30) and his wife (27). As i believe things were happy until she met me. Where i use my own personal ethics to guide me, he is very concerned with rules and regulations. For example i avoid meat for ethical reasons, he cant understand this. He avoids premarital sex for ‘religious’ reasons, i cant understand this. He believes a man demands respect, i believe respect can only be earned. The more time my partner and i would spend together the more house rules he would create. In the beginning she would always agree, until i reminded her in this country someone nearing 30 is free to do whatever. (NB: i understand that i could have a great influence over her judgement, so i would allow her to decide what she wanted) When she started to break house rules, he would verbally attack his wife and my partner. Followed by very emotive and vague correspondence with her aging parents (my future inlaws). Her distressed parents would always contact her, and tell her not to cause trouble (as a sign of respect she would NEVER tell them the facts, nor would she disobey, even after identifying his manipulations) In his presence the wife would always back him up, but comfort my partner and agree is a controlling misogynist. Rules started with a midnight curfew, but soon became petty and fluid to his convenience. One evening my partner was working late in a particularly violent area, and it was also raining, having no car herself, i collected her and dropped home, this caused great distress because she had seen me the night before. I was not allowed to remain late in front of his kids [which i can understand] but when they holidayed interstate they would phone her to ensure that i had left on time; im not sure how this effected his kids being 2000km away. Upon them understanding i was still at the SHARE house, they flew home immediately. When i would make plans of an evening they would repeatedly make fixed plans including my partner over the top of mine. More often than not their plans would fail to eventuate, so the couple would go to the cinema and leave my partner babysitting their children. Often she was told it is unfair on them if she has a greater social life than them. When her auntie visited my partner was forbidden to socialise and attend the wedding as it would require hers spending the entire night with her auntie. Not being the petty type she has taken responsibility for the offence caused. Now she is working abroad and i have had a couple of personal attacks from this gent, regarding my inferiority to him and my inappropriate behaviour. By this countries standards i am very conservative and disciplined myself. He has accused me of having an affair with his wife, and suggested i stay away. I had visited on celebrations to give gifts to the kids. This was all in his presence, but mind you slipped an affair in at these times. Being all that i am, i can still be asked for a monetary loan. After suggesting i stay away he announces to her family that i am shunning them. I don’t know what to do. My partners sentiments are similar to mine, but she fears standing up to him. We are planning on purchasing a house soon, and marrying next year or beyond. This, he has already disallowed, and we both believe he will manipulate her parents’ understanding of the situation. As far as we feel, he has pushed himself beyond his boundaries (possibly because he was allowed). But as a older male (by 2 years) she automatically feels he is wise enough to be obeyed. She does obey. Should i make a stand to him? this will most likely cause her parents to disapprove of me Should we both ignore him? This will cause great shame to her parents and their family Should i expect her to make a stand? I don’t know how that would unravel I just don’t know, please help **in their terms they refer to each other as brother/sister, although no family links. I used the term cousin as this is how i would consider the level of closeness.im sorry that was a little cluttered and all over the place, i just had a lot to say, quickly :)thankyou adelya i just dont understand why he manipulates stories and rules change to suit him. for example his western wife is forbidden from talking with me (because he thinks we are having an affair) but he will stay out most of the night drinking with his ex-partner. this isn't an east-west thing, both have there strengths and failings. i just dont think someone should go to a new country and turn it into where they came from. i hope you dont suffer from the same issues as i :) more

Resolved Question: Some tips on being a DJ at a wedding?

my cousin recently asked me if i wanted to DJ at her wedding (next year) and i accepted. the thing is, i'm not sure what exactly i need to do. i won't get paid for it, and that's fine with me (it will be my gift!). should i need a record player, or just some really loud speakers and CD's? i'm completely open to buying a record player, as i have quite a few records. so any tips would be good(: the people there will mostly be a little bit over 20, and the elders. thank you! more

Resolved Question: I need wedding gift ideas for a friend?

Hey everyone. So a friend, a fellow camp counselor, is getting married. She is 20 years old and I have only known her for 10 weeks. I want to get her a wedding gift, but im not sure what I should get. Do yall have any ideas?? thank you for all ur help. more

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Resolved Question: Should I do a bridal registry for a small wedding?

My fiance and I are having a hard time deciding whether it would be proper to do a bridal registry or not. We are only inviting immediate family and our grandparents to a wedding that we are having in a different state than where either of our families live so everyone will be traveling which will cost them money. We have lived together for a few years and have most of the items we need. We are paying for our own wedding and it will be a hardship. My fiance doesn't like people giving him gifts because he thinks he can buy himself anything he really needs and thinks we really could use money if anything but really doesn't want anything. He thinks a registry is rude. I think everyone plans to give us gifts no matter what we say. My family have told me they think I should register to help people buy gifts who are not comfortable giving money and want to give us something tangible as a keepsake. I think having some keepsakes and not just all money would be nice. Additionally, I work at a Bed Bath and Beyond and we have used my employee discount to purchase top of the line cookware, cutlery, bed linens, towels, kitchen utensils, etc. We have some china from his mother that I don't completely like but aren't sure china would be used enough to register for a different set. I would like to select a china pattern but wonder if registering for 12 place settings for a wedding with 20 guests seems excessive. I could see upgrading some things, like our toaster oven and registering for some nicer things we don't have like crystal drink ware and vases. But if most of our registry is nicer items since we have nicer basics, does this seem greedy? I probably could think of some less expensive items, like a cookie dough scoop but that seems silly. Also my fiance does not want his family to know about the registry. He is successful, more so than most of his family, and feels it would be in poor form. It seems unethical to only tell my family and I think his family will probably find out anyway. Help! Sorry my question is so long- this is complicated! more

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Voting Question: What are possible wedding gifts a 12 year old could make and give?

now this question isn't any old regular "what kind of wedding gift should i get?", i'm an 12 year old who got invited to my tutor's wedding and i was planning on knitting her a fruit basket, but turns out, i'm not a pro at knitting and when i "try" to knit the object, it looks like nothing :(. if anybody knows of simple fruit knitting ideas...that would be appreciated. but i'm kind of skeptical on the idea. plus, she's a really important friend so i kinda don't want like a cheesy like picture frame gift...also, her wedding is in like august, so i kinda want something possible for a 12 year old to make within the time limit of now...and august 20. so yeah..all ideas appreciated! :)okay...so i read the "so far comments" and one of them made me forgot to add something. the gift can be like between $20 and down. my mom says she's willing to help pay for items...thx for the comments! more

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I am a bridesmaid in a wedding sat and the bride and groom are just doing a renewal of vows they were married last year .They have everything they could need and her taste run expensive extremely expensive I need some ideas please on a wedding gift for them but im on a budget under 20 dollars any ideas or suggestions would be greatly appreciated .Thank you more

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